Question:
hey i liked the advice you've given me before :) soo..

i'm bringing my ex with me on vacation in july. we broke up in april, but we both decided that we were still gonna stay good friends and see where things go from there. i'm still in love with him. he broke it with me because he said his feelings changed, but he said he still wanted me in his life, and i know he means it too. we're going to myrtle beach together and do you think theres a chance of him falling back in love if we're like on the beach at night flirting and hanging out? what do you think of this situation? and what things can i do to make it as romantic as possible. i would do absolutely anything to get back with this guy.

17/f, 17/m
thanks so much for your time.

oh and we were together for about 9 months, if that helps. and we met in the summer and starting dating in the summer.

My Answer:
I would suggest you ask another columnist about this. Love and all that stuffs are really . . . confusing to me, hehehe. That's why my fields are computer and internet, and health and medicine; not love and relationship =P


And with that, I advise you to be careful with my advice on this. I am looking at all this from a third person's view, without knowing anything about you or your boyfriend.

By the way, this is a continuation of these questions that you've asked before, right?

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=563320 (answered by me)

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=563243 (answered by another columnist)

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=562599 (answered by two other columnists)



Anyhow, from what I see, even if you two get back together after this, history would just repeat itself once again. To put it plainly, he would one day say that his feeling change again and you two would just break up again.

He and you need to do something about this "feeling changed" deal.


Love is rather . . . may I say . . . much like the seasons--spring, summer, autumn, and winter.

-Spring: affection, crush, holding hand, dates, occasion kisses, trust, hope, slight jealousy . . . nice and cute, an other-worldly happiness.

-Summer: a lot of kisses, french kissing in public, seriously into each other, intense jealousy, doubt, fear, fights, deeper sexual activities . . . heated and intense, a mixture of heaven and hell.

-Autumn: understanding, trust, respect, loving, less sexual activities, less kisses, little jealousy, dates, hope, little or no fight, resolve problems together . . . cool and calm, a gentle breeze of the tender wind.

-Winter: understanding, trust, respect, caring, no more romantic feeling to each other but only memories of what once was, care, no more jealousy, occasion dates, little doubt, no more fights . . . quiet and relax, a warming cold.


Well, anyway, he needs to understand taht the sparkling feeling that he had for you at the beginning will not last forever. You two are now should either break up or continue on WILLINGLY.

And so, knowing that, do your best and have a great time together on that vacation. But I suggest you to let him go if he wishes to. If he comes back, he's yours; if he doesn't, then he never will be. A binding chain could rarely bring happiness, just remember that =)


Sorry that I'm not much of a help. I don't know you two enough to make any judgment =(

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