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he is a freshman, im a sophomore. ever since the last time we saw eachother at our friends' house he has slowly been asking for sexual things from me. [these questions came gradually.] NOW he thinks were having sex. [i never said no, but i refuse to.] in the begining i said, i dont know about that i dont think thats gonna happen sorry [i would never want to have sex now anyways] and he would just say ugh grr fine. but now, he is completely convinced that we are going to do it. its starting to scare me. alright, you may think im crazy, and maybe i am. but the only reason i have been putting up with his shit is because i want to see him. i dont know why, but i just really want to see him. although, he treats me like a hoe and only talks to me when he feels like it. but im hoping he'll be himself when i see him. anyways, friday night i was over my friends house on her laptop in her kitchen while she was somehwere else. he IMed me and asked me to send a naked pic and i said im at my friends sorry [i wouldnt do it anyway] and then he said, wow. oh my god were havin sex just send it. [by the way we arent. he just thinks we are. im just too afraid to tell him no] and then he was just being really cruel to me and demanding. he said, ugh you wouldnt send it even if you werent at your friends house, your just like that. i want it damnit.
and then i started shaking and getting scared because i didnt know what to say and i didnt want him to get angry. then he said, ugh do you want my dick or not, hoe. and i said, yo dont call me a hoe.. and he said, then send a pic later. so then i just said i dont know..and he said, fine im fucking your vag then. and i said, do i have to..? and he said, im gonna fuck your vag now. i dont care ill bring a condom.
..thats so scary. he sounds like he wants to rape me. even at one point in our conversation a few days ago he said something like, "im gonna pin you against the wall and fuck you so hard your gonna cry" i told him that sounds like rape. because it does. i am kind of scared of him in a way..look at this conversation..[i changed the names]

matt: your my sex slave
me: whatt.
matt:
you mess up in sex ill slap you in the face wit my cock\
me:
what the fuck
are you being serious
matt:
only if you get naughty (:
me:
...
matt:
suck it till i jizz down your throat
me:
you dont really think of me as your sex slave do you
matt:
no
but im gonna slap you wit my cock
me:
why..?
matt:
cuz then youll suck it
me:
ill do whatever i want
matt:
youll do what i tell you to do
me:
someones being demanding
matt:
i dont care


i cant believe he thinks im his "sex slave" that hurts. and makes me feel like im a nobody and he is using me and getting everything out of it and probobly telling all of his friends and then what am i left with? nothing. whenever i think about the things he says to me, i get this weird stomache feeling, not a good one. and im really scared because yesterday he said to me, im going to their housr tonight. i want your ass, go tonight. and i said, should i ask if i can go..and he said, nah its ok. just go march 28. and i said okay, do you not want me to go tonight or something? and he said, i dont care, but im fucking your vag without a condom so..

first of all when did i ever agree to that. but i dont wanna say no because then he wont go to their house on march 28. he even said, i wont be busy if i get to fuck you. I DONT WANT TO! I WONT LET HIM. all i want to do is hookup. i dont want to have sex with him, never. ever. but i cant tell him that..and then when were at their house, after they all go to sleep, he wants to go on the other side of their basement and do it. but i feel like..hes gonna be really mad if i tell him while hes about to do it to me..hes gonna be so pissed. and i dont want him to slap me. i want to see him though..i dont know why. what is wrong with me. im starting to scare myself

EDIT: after reading your feedback comment, I have a little more advice. If you do meet up with him, I don't recommend you do anything sexual. I know you want to, but this will turn him on and it might lead up to something. Or he'll keep pushing you to do it with him. Either way, you probably won't be happy. It's your choice, but if you really want this guy to actually start respecting you, you should lay down the law early :)


Ok, it sounds to me like this guy is either jacking off when he texts you and uses your responses to incorporate into his weird horny fantasy world, or he is seriously dangerous. In either case, I'd suggest you start avoiding him. He thinks of you as weak right now, that's why he feels he has the right to talk to you like that. You need to stand up for yourself and tell him no. You're right, he probably would be pissed if you told him no right before you guys were about to have sex. In which case, I don't know the guy so I don't really know what he would do if he got angry, so I'd say you need to avoid that situation completly. Just stop messaging him. Better yet, the next time he says anything perverted, just tell him "You're creepy so leave me the fuck alone or I'm calling the police". You have the right to do that you know. This is sexual harassment and that's against the law. I know how you feel when you say you just want to see him. You're probably just attracted to the "bad boys" or something. But guess what? There are other fish in the sea. And as overused as that phrase is, it's true. There's a guy out there who's nice and sweet and will love you for you and will wait to have sex when you're ready. Just always remember, you don't need a guy to make you happy. This guy's obviously just a jerk looking for some ass and you're his target. I know it's tough, but you just have to let him go. If you can't stand up to him yourself, bring your friends into it. Tell them how freaked you are and they will probably stand up for you. If there's anything a guy will back down against, it's a group of pissed off girls haha. Trust me honey, you deserve a lot better, and if this jerk knows how to make you feel happy when you see him, you can bet your bottom dollar that another guy who's not a jerk can make you feel ten times that happiness. Just stop texting him, tell him to stop harassing you, and, if he gets sad and wants you back, demand an apology, at the least. Never allow a guy to treat you like this. Just tell him "i'm not going to have sex with you, and if you keep saying stuff that creeps me out, I'm going to call the police and report you for sexual harassment". I really hope you can find this strength to over come this fear you have of him and no let him control you, but the decision is yours. Goodluck!!!

Jessica 15/f

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(Rating: 5) thank you so much. heres the problem, he said he is going to sleepover their house [our friend's house] next saturday, because i told him to. he said he'll set it up and told me not to worry, but i dont know if he will anymore. he isnt very predictable. he does this thing where he talks to me like 3 days in a row, or talks to me every 3 days, and then just..stops talking to me for a week. but then comes back around again, RANDOMLY. i dont like it and it confuses me, i never know what to expect or think anymore. im really hoping in a way that he'll be at their house because i know he knows. he better not forget..how could he. hes the one who wants to do it so badly. i dont though i just wanna see him and hookup and maybe give him a hj but thats it.

i just hope he'll be there..i really do. its gonna be the biggest let down if he isnt. but then again, if he IS there, im probobly going to have a horrible time. either way, im gonna feel empty and like something is missing. last time i went to their house when he told me to, he ignored me most of the time and only wanted to play video games with his friend and ditch us half the time. and the movies and music that we watched and listened to, he thought was gay. it was insulting because i felt stupid.

woah. i ramble a lottt. haha sorry about that.
thanks for helping me though
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