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I've been extremely interested (like, "Guy of my dreams" interested) in this guy in my theater department for several months now, (He actually used to be my neighbor from across the street, but I was too shy to go and talk to him) and we chat here and there, and we DO have a lot in common, and I truly see potential in us being together. However, I have absolutely no idea how he feels about me...one minute, he doesn't seem to know I exist, and the next, we're having a deep conversation...there HAVE been times where I THINK he's dropped hints, but my anxiety has prevented me from responding...I'm afraid to tell him how I feel because,
A: Being rejected sucks, but I think being the one who has to reject is even worse, and I care about him too much to put that on him. I realize that's not going to get me anywhere, but it's just the way I am.
B: I'm too darn shy, and
C: I've had experiences where guys have completely ignored me after I told them how I felt...I don't think he'd be that way, but that experience has taken a huge chunk out of my confidence level.
Anyways, I suppose what I'm trying to ask is,
1: What would be the most obvious hints a guy would typically give? (so I can avoid confusion in the future)
And 2: What can I do to prepare myself to approach the situation should I ever decide to confront him about my feelings?
Thanks everyone, I realize that was a really long post... (link)
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Hi :)
Ok, so I am assuming you two are semi-friends or acquaintances? That's a good start. Sometimes people take time to develop feelings for another person while other people can develop them quite quickly.
Usually guys are pretty obvious. If he talks to you a lot, stares at you often, or tries to hug you a lot then he probably does like you. Personally, I would wait a bit until I knew the guy better, just to make sure you can still be friends even if it doesn't work out. Let him come to you. If he seems too shy to ever be the type of guy to say anything, then you will eventually have to face your fear and tell him. I know this can be very scary but it's better out than in. Having a secret crush is simply annoying! Haha you only live once right?
What I did, was try and wait for the guy to make the move. It wasn't working out at all. He was completely shy and it seemed like he didn't like me when he actually REALLY did. But he would never put it out there, so I had to take the initiative. I told him one day over aim (lame I know) and he responded well. So next time we hung out I kissed him and eventually....he asked me out. Some guys are just super shy so sometimes you have to face your fears and go get what you want. Anyways, I don't think you should listen to your past experiences of how things could go wrong, because you can't live in fear forever. Life is about action. Go get him girl! hahaha
good Luck
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Thank you very much! I'll definitely give it a try! =P You've been extremely helpful!
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