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I know I am at times and though I try not to be, I feel myself slip into thinking that I am amazing and that I simply have qualities that other people lack. I seem to sometimes think that I understand things better than other people, that I am deep, and that I have greater intellect than other people. But that obviously isn't true, because we are all so different and each person has something remarkable to bring to this world. No one has ever told me that I am self centered, because I tend to be nice to everyone, it's just that in my mind I classify people and judge them and look for their bad qualities. I think I do it subconsciously to make me feel better about myself. I believe my arrogance comes from my insecurity. I had lower self-esteem a year or so ago, so I'm recovering from that, and I have been hurt by many guys before. I guess this is simply how I cope with my insecurities. But I'm trying so hard to give love to my friends and to everyone I meet. I don't want it to be me versus the world. I want to be part of a world, and united with people, rather that to isolate myself in my arrogance. I hope someone can help me to work on this issue. How can I become a better person? Thank you so much :)
This is a really, really good question :) Ok, there's nothing wrong with having a high self esteem, unless you are belittling others to build it. Personally, I'm pretty arrogant myself. I feel like I'm more deep and intellectual then most, though I'm obviously not. I "tame" this problem by having phases. I know it's not easy to control phases, but I think it's possible. I have "I'm the shit" phases and then i'll start being insecure and compare myself to others. I alternate between the two phases every week or so. I know it's not right to be down on yourself all the time, but I think I have a good mix of the two phases. Also, when you start to think arrogant, think about what the other person is thinking about. If you pass by some girl in the hallway or are talking to a friend and you catch yourself starting the whole "I'm soooo much deeper/intellectual/etc. then her/him.", just think about what they think. Think about what they think of you and what they wonder. Chances are, it's probably the same things you do. Everyone has an urge programmed into them to be "special". Some people physically/mentally make reasons to, while others create reasons by lowering everyone else around them. Just know that how you feel is completely normal. :) goodluck!
(Rating: 5) Thank you. I actually feel a lot better now. I guess I'm not a bitch, I must just be normal :P lol