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It's fine.Ask me a question. I like giving advice. If you don't like the advice I give, or the opinion I have, it's fine.
Sometimes you can't get through to people no matter how long and hard you try.
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I can not stand smoking. i mean i really cant, my entire family was shocked when they found out that my boyfriend of over a year smoked. We have talked about him quitting, ways to quit, trying to cut down, cold turkey, patches, ect. I cant be around him for like 20 minutes every time after he smokes he has to pretty much brush his teeth and use breath strips all the time and change his clothes just to be around me. I find it weird that he is willing to do all of these things but WILL OT STOP SMOKNG. He says he has been cutting down for the last .. nearly two years.. but he really has not. He says he really does want to quit, bad habbit, bad for his heart, ME..ect. I have been to just about every "quit smoking" web site with him reading, trying to understand, trying to help him put a mental block up. He thinks he is going to have terrible withdrawls so bad hes going to have a heart attack. (he has a heart defect but nothing really says that the withdrawls will do anything like THAT to him). So i dont know how or what more to say. Please any help, anything at this point.. thanks in advance
If he really does want to quit and is all for quitting, then I think the process will be easier.
What I mean by that is that he has to commit and really truly WANT to change. Not the flimsy "Oh yes, I'll try later" way of thinking.
My mom used to smoke, and she quit by gradually cutting down. She said the withdrawals weren't so bad this way, since she was getting her nicotine fix, just less and less each day.
How many packs a day does he smoke? Let's go with two just for explanation purposes.
Day One: Smoke two packs
Day Two: Smoke two packs minus one cigarette
Day Three: Smoke two packs minus two cigarettes
Day Four: Smoke two packs minus three cigarettes
Etc...
Also, if he feels like he needs to grab something else to make up for the one less cigarette, if it must be food, make it something healthy. One of my uncles quit cold turkey and would grab a cookie for every cigarette they weren't having. Not so great for you either.
Above all, your job as his girlfriend is to be supportive. Support him in his journey to quit. I'd imagine it'll be a whole lot easier on him with a good support system behind him.
Good luck to your boyfriend.
(Rating: 5) thanks.