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Q: 15/f
Ok, where I live usually people go out at night.
Sometimes drinking sometimes just walking around, going to the park, having a good time etc.
I always get asked but I make up excuses to turn them(my friends) down.
Most people go home by 11pm anyway so it's not a big deal or anything.(They are all 15-17) Some of the older people stay out later, or the people with more relaxed parents.
I've never been sure how to ask my parents if I could go out with my friends at night...
How can I approach them about this, what should I say to them, etc?
I really want to go out with my friends...but I'm not sure what my parents will say.
They trust me so that's no problem, and they've always been the more relaxed kind...but I'm not sure about this topic.

Any help?
Thanks!
Updated***
Not what you had in mind? Obviously not, that is precisely the point.




You don't. Just sneak out or whatever. Do whatever you want. You know best. Teenagers usually know everything. Probably you will have a great time hanging out with your friends, who are really responsible good people and will keep you safe. Hopefully you won't get kidnapped, raped or killed. Your parents just don't want you to have any fun. They just took care of you all your life so that you could waste it with a bunch of losers that hang out in the park anyway. If they really love you then they won't set any limits ever. You should thank them by doing what you want and lie to them. Your parents are only your parents for a little while. Highschool friends and people that hang out in parks looking for a good time are really life long friends who will always be there for you.

Hmm. Not what I had in mind.

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