hey I have always been known as the understanding person, and also have always given decent advice. I think that I have worldly experience and have seen a lot for my years. always try to give the best advice possible--no judgements
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Well my name and Jenny and me and my boyfriend have been going out for over 2 years now, and we are perfect. We take long walks, we lay on the beach, we laugh together. We're totally young and in love. We're both 15 by the way. Well, me and my boyfriend have been best friends with a boy since 6th grade. Me and my best friend have always been like brother and sister. And since he's my best friend and everything we talk about alot of stuff and help eachother through problems. He admitted to me that he likes me, and that he's tried to stop but he cant control it. He says when he sees me and my boyfriend together he gets sad, he said he feels like my boyfriend is the luckiest boy in the world. I told him that he already knows i'm in love with my boyfriend and i will always see him as my best friend, nothing more. He knows that. My best friend said he was never sure about his feelings for me before, but now he realizes that he likes me...alot. May even love me. He describes me as his perfect girl. This was a shock to me because we have always had a brother and sister relationship and i couldnt believe he felt this way. Now i dont know whether i should stop talking to him, so he'll get over me. Because he has to get over me or else he's just gonna be hurting all the time seeing how in love me and my boyfriend are. Or should i keep talking to him, because we feel that if we stop talking, it'll ruin our friendship. None of us want that to happen. He really is a true friend and is always there for me. I dont know what to do...he cant just shut me out of his life because he said its too hard. And its too hard for me as well. (link)
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I think that if he is truly your best friend, you should not let his feelings stand in the way of your friendship. That is of course if he can be respectful of the fact that you have a boyfriend, and keep his feelings to himself after he already told you, not make a move on you, etc. if he can keep a platonic distance and does not bother your boyfriend it should be alright. My best friend of 10 years is still in love with me, has been since we were 15, and we are still best friends. he has seen me go through relationships and i have seen him. good luck.
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