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I can't believe I'm asking this but..
I have extreme insecurity issues about my weight and my breast. I'm about 295 lbs I'm 5'9 and a big boned girl. However when I look myself in the mirror I see saggy breast.. and a big belly.. a saggy butt etc...I'm constantly thinking about "OMG what if I ever meet a nice guy and everything...and he makes fun of me when he see's me naked.." If someone ever did that too me my heart would drop and I would probably cry my eyes out etc.. I dont' know how to get over it. I walk everyday, drink water and eat less etc but I am sooooo worried about getting rejected because of the way I look.. I mean I'm 22 years old and I have a body of a 60 year old.
-BahaiMa22...
Honey, first of all you should stop worrying. If you meet a nice guy who loves you enough that you are going to see each other naked..then why would he ever make fun of you for the way you look? And if he does (and I know I say this a million times on my column), then he seriously wouldn't be worth it, now would he?
Try this for confidence (it helps me a lot so it might help you too):
When you look in the mirror, try thinking 3 consecutive positive thoughts about yourself. If you think a single negative thought before you get to 3, you have to start all over again with new thoughts.
Each day you do this, you can bump the number up to 4, then 5, then 6...
Think positively! Everybody's beautiful in their own way. And anybody who makes fun of you for the way you look isn't worth anything. Because remember: Everybody has their flaws too. So if that 'nice guy' mocks you for yours, it's just because he's insecure about his and just isn't worth it. Then, you should tell him about that little exercise I listed above so he can work on his insecurity ;]
Good luck and feel better!
(Rating: 5) Thanks so much, You must have givin me the best advice so far out of all my questions and you made me feel a hell of a lot better.
BahaiMa22