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So I had a boyfriend, that i was extremely good friends wtih when i met him last august, well we talked alot and i always went to bed with a smile on my face after our conversations. He asked me out in the beggining of november and i couldnt have been more happier, it was the time i was happiest. he dumped me mid march because hes moving soon and didnt know if he wanted a girlfriend still. so he was known as the goofy player type. and i thought i had changed him from that, but the day after he broke up with me, he went back to his playerish self and was all over girls. now when he broke up wtih me over the phone, he told me he still wanted to be friends. now i see him at dances and gatherings like that, and its so awkward because he is all over everyone, and it hurts. the day after he broke up with me when i saw him, it was an awkward hi and hug, and my friends werent being that nice to him so i felt really bad. but i talked to him at it and he even got a bit teary eyed, but i didnt know if he actually cared or not. parts of me think he did and parts of me think he just wanted to make me feel better. well the day after that, i called him to make sure he was okay and he said yeah and that the question was if i was okay, and i said im alright, and im like i guess, i just felt really bad about how people were acting. well now its a month later, we had a dance, he was with this one girl and his one guy friend knew how i was feeling and told him later that night, so then my ex apologized and said he heard i had looked dissappointed and said he shouldn't have done that and asked if i was okay, and i told him he can do what he wants because i have no control over that, and i just dont move on as fast as others, especially because this is my first relationship. i saw him saturday, we hugged and said hi then when we were leaving he said bye and lifted me up, but i dont know. he was even trying to flirt, dance, and kiss my friends? im like oh thanks. i miss the friendship we had, and i feel like whenever we talk its awkward, or i have NO CLUE what to say. and i just want the friendship to be how it used to be more than ever. I feel like i have no time because hes moving in june or july. i feel like the more i cared the more i made it worse and the more pain i caused myeslf. people tell me i deserve better, but they don't know what i saw in him when i went out with him, it was when i was the happiest, if anyone could tell me what i should do, or how i should feel, it'd be really apreciated, i apologize for the length of this! lol
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i think that you are young and that this is an important thing for you to experience. im sure that it is very difficult to have an ex be awkward and have a lost friendship because of a relationship. but maybe his moving away will be good for you. it will give you time to develop yourself as a person and learn an important lesson about happiness. true happiness, like the long lasting kind, can only come from you. you are the only person who can decide to be happy. so do yourself a favor and stop worrying so much about him. you guys will be fine, if you stop caring about what he thinks or feels and just worry about yourself then life will be much more fulfilling.
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