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15/f
Okay, so a few months ago one of my friends (A) decided that she didn't like me anymore. So, she kinda just kicked me to the curb and started ignoring me, telling other people to ignore me and stuff. So, I was left with only two friends. One of them has stuck by me through thick and thin and then the other one (B) I'm kinda mad at now.
A few weeks after my incident, friend B was hanging out with me more than A. I guess she felt that I needed a shoulder to cry on and all that junk, which I did. Well, because B was supporting me, A and these 3 other girls who also used to be my friends started ignoring B also. Then B was all like "I can't believe they would do this to me!" and stuff like that. And I was completely there for her because I knew EXACTLY how it felt considering these same girls had just done this to me. So B and I grew closer.
Then all of a sudden, B decided to bring up the fact that she felt ignored to A...and A was EXTREMELY APOLOGETIC and said things like "Oh I'm so sorry! I had no idea we were!" and then she invited B back into their little group and everything is nice and happy and wonderful for her. And B tries to talk to me and stuff, but I can tell she'd rather hang out with them instead of me, just like everyone else.
The thing that bugs me the most is that when I brought up how I was feeling to A, she yelled at me and said she was doing nothing of the sort and then we weren't friends anymore.
So basically, now that B is back in the group, she doesn't really talk to me as much anymore and she'd much rather be friends with them than with me. And it also really really bothers me that now she's close to this other girl who at the beginning of the year both B and A hated and now they both prefer hanging out with her than with me. This other girl is actually pretty much the reason why I have no friends now because she started everything between me and A. It's so stupid and I hate this so much. I'm so frustrated with B that she would be so hypocritical.
Any advice whatsoever on like I dunno, how to feel better about this I guess? Or should I talk to B and tell her how I feel? Though I don't know if I should do that because I don't need another life-changing fight on my hands...
I just don't know what to do :(
(By the way I'm really sorry this is so long)

You put detail and that makes answering easier for us ;]

I think both of these girls are not worth your time. I mean what about the other one who was there for you? what happened to her??

let me tell you something okay? i went through this SAME exact thing. A was your friend, but another girl stepped in and it seemed as though you didnt matter right? A just talks to you when she wants something and then when she sees what you have, she wants to take it away. So she does it to B to knowing she is a weak soul. They lure B into the group and be buddy buddy with her. Reality check: they are just using her (but dont tell her that) so B thinks "hey i got these girls what do i need the other one for?" so she ditches you to. Once A sees her master plan has reached its peak and sees you dont need B anymore she tosses B to the side knowing you wont accept her back.

Yeah it happens. I know it sucks. But i learned the hard way. The same girl tries to talk to me and be buddy buddy, so i say just ignore them. B included. You can find better friends to hang out with. Mainly this is the reason why i like having guy friends. Because they dont care if you make body noises or how you dress. They wont lie to your face. My best friend is a guy and it has opened a whole new world for me. Im telling you, go to the one girl who was there for you the WHOLE time, and maybe make friends with some guys. Its gets you possibly a good rep with the boys and over the stupid barbie dolls in the world haha
-hayley

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(Rating: 5) Lol that was really great advice! You nailed my dilemma right on and it's really nice to know there's someone out there who knows what I'm going through. Thank you!

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