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About me? I'm in an interracial relationship- have been for overs year. He's black; I'm white. We're pretty rad, if I do say so myself.
I live in Florida. I'm a high school graduate. I like to knit. I don't take my own advice, simply because I'm stubborn. I have a big family. Also,I have a experience with children and babies. I like to party party party and get wasted. I like to smoke cigarettes. I like to snuggle. That's all you need to know. :)
++I don't answer questions nicely [if at all] to thirteen year olds, no matter their problem.
++I have also stopped answering the whole "DOES HE LIKE ME?!?!" questions. Communication is key, people. If you want to know, ASK.
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ok so first off i'm an 18 year old guy. i've been in a relationship with my dream girl for now 7 1/2 months. she's 17. she's the first girlfriend that i've ever had. before me she dated a guy for 7 months, they broke up about a year and a 1/2 ago, but that was pretty much it for her. we're both deeply in love with each other. before her i was depressed and miserable but she changed all that and since we've been together i'm happier than i ever could've imagined. i know that she's really happy with me too. so basically we can't get enough of each other. something that has really been getting to me lately is the issue of sex. in 7 1/2 months we haven't done anything sexual at all, no blowjobs, no handjobs or anything like that. i kind of thought that was a good thing for the first couple months because we were able to make something great together without sex or anything but lately it's been getting to me. i'm really sexually attracted to her and it's just driving me crazy. i know that she's strongly attracted to me too, she's said so and i'm exactly her type. we've both sent each other alot of nude pictures and there was no big deal about it. i feel completely comfortable sending them to her and she feels the same. we do touch each other alot, not sexually however. for example, sometimes we'll just lay on her bed for 4 hours snuggling up with each other really tight just talking about how much we love each other and stuff. we have this thing where we tickle each other alot. we tickle bare skin like the stomach, back, and she likes tickling my "man boobs". she also likes giving me wedgies. she's jokingly admitted that the whole wedgy thing is just an excuse to touch my ass. lately all that touching stuff has intensified. i get the feeling that i really need to do something. i know that alot of the time sex is bad for young couples but its been 7 1/2 months and we've made such a solid foundation already without it. i don't really want to go into like real sex until maybe prom night, which is in 2 months. i want our first time to be special and romantic. i do want to do some of the other stuff though. i want to go down on her so badly because i feel like she deserves it and i want to make her feel good. i don't even want a blowjob or anything else all that badly because i just want to make her feel good. she has told me that her ex went down on her while they were dating but she never had sex with him, she's still a virgin like me. it's embarassing to say but i know how to do all of the stuff because i looked it up online. there are alot of times when we have the opportunity to do stuff, both our parents work alot. i really don't know how to even get into that situation. people have said to just kind of "explore" while we're making out and go from there. i'm kind of an awkward kid and i'm somewhat unconfident and very scared of failure even though i've gotten all the info i need from websites and friends, both male and female. so if anyone could help me out i would much appreciate it. i know i probably sound weird but i'm just really confused about the whole thing. (link)
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I have to say, before anything else, what a nice guy you truly sound like. There's nothing wrong with being awkward, there's nothing wrong with waiting, and there's certainly nothing wrong with doing research to have an idea of what's going on. Now, after that, I'd have to say make yourself comfortable, because this might take a minute. [:
As I was reading through this, I immediately had flash backs to my first time "exploring" with my boyfriend. First things first! Talk to her. If you feel so intensely about something, and you think she does too, actually communicating about it will get the ball rolling! Two months is [in my opinion] plenty of time to get yourselves aquainted with each other, for prom night.
After talking about it with her, and you actually want to DO something, take it slow. When you're making out, slide your hands up the sides of her shirt and just hold her, firmly and securely, not too tight or loose. Lean back from the kiss and just smile at her and tell her you love her, then make out some more.
I can [enough, atleast] understand what you mean about going down on her. It was a really big thing for my boyfriend because he felt the same way about me. Tell her what all you want to do to her/for her, and why. When you're in bed cuddling for hours on end, try something then!
Ask her permission, and unbutton the top button of her pants. If she objects then, STOP. If she doesn't object, pull down the zipper. Slide her pants slowly down her hips and off, dropping them on the floor. If she looks or says she feels awkward, stop what you're doing to reassure her that she's beautiful, and you'll stop whenever she says so.
Then, if you dare continue, hook your fingers into the sides of her panties and get her to help you ease them off. Pause again to make sure she's alright, then continue. I would suggest fingering her [start with one finger, because she's probably rather tight, and eventually you two will work your way up to more fingers]
That should get you started, I hope. If you have anymore questions, feel completely free to ask. [:
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thanks so much for the advice, i appreciate it
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