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Okay wel sorry if this will be long but i have a lot to say and i need an ear to talk to...
I used to like this boy a long time ago (last year) and i told him how i felt and it pretty much just scared him off. But i got over that and now i like this one guy, cj, but he is different than drew (he was the guy i liked first) i dont know why but i just care more about him and i want him to want me like i want him. You know what im saying. But im not obsessed or anything like that. He had a girlfriend and i waited.
At one point i thought he liked me. Because we never talked at all, and he would look at me, until i caught him, then he would look away. And he threw a paper ball at me. Then like 5 weeks ago he told me he had a girlfriend and all, but it came up casually in a conversation. And about a week ago, he was seriously flirting with me, and this past tuesday i found out that him and his girlfriend broke up. Now we still talk and everything, but i am having self doubt.
I feel like i am getting my hopes up and i dont have a chance. He is a senior and i am a freshman but im 15 and hes 18...only three years, and we are a small community and the senior boys arent really like players, well most of them. But he is really nice and sweet. I dont want to ruin it by coming on too strong. But he was saying that he likes to talk about his feelings and he is sort of a romantic and likes a girl thats fun and has a sense of humor, (which is pretty much me in a nutshell) and he said i can be dumb funny and cute at the same time... he was teasing me and touching me with his arm constantly. I just mesh with him...
But:
1) Do you think i have a chance at all?
2) do you think he was just being nice while he was flirting or is there something there?
3) Do you think i am getting ahead of myself?
4) How should i handle this? Normally i would tell a guy i liked him as long as he dont have a girlfriend and he dont but he is the only one i have ever had trouble dealing with this. Like im not nervous or anything..you know what i mean?
Sorry its so long but i need guidance.. :)
Honestly, I truly believe you have a chance. He's telling you about what he looks for in a girl, and he said that you are funny and cute. That's a very good sign.
I think it's a really really really really (you get my point) good sign that you are having trouble knowing what to do with him. That means that you feel differently about him than with other guys and you don't want to mess it up because you want to make this happen. =] That's a GREAT thing, embrace it. Love it. I totally understand where you are coming from.
My advice to you would be just continue flirting, and kick it up a notch to see if he can take a hint that you like him. Don't be too over-the-top; nobody likes a ditzy girl, trust me lol. Just keep the friendship you seem to have with him going and take things slow. You have time, so what's the point in rushing and messing up? I just wouldn't go right out and tell him just yet. Be totally sure of your feelings first, and you're right: you don't want to get TOO ahead of yourself.
Once again, I really do think that there is something there between you two. Just be yourself (I know, cliche right?) and go with the flow. The last thing you want is to beat yourself up over this.
Good luck sweetie =] You'll be great.
By the way:
You do have a good point with him going off to college soon and only having a few more weeks left in class. If you two are friends (which it seems like you are) then I believe it would be a very good idea to casually give him your phone number. I'd give him yours and say something like "Here, so you can text me sometime..." Be all flirty when you give it to him, you know? Then, don't ask for his. See if he offers it to you, and if he doesn't, he might text you later and then you'll have it. Don't be needy; let him come to you.
(Rating: 5) Thank you! you helped me so much!! but we only have a few more weeks left in the class (its a rotation) and then nine more weeks and he goes to college..should i casually bring it up and hint off that i should get his number and he should get mine and we should text?? could you modify the question and awnser that one too please i left it out.. :) ha ha