about

It's fine.
Ask me a question. I like giving advice. If you don't like the advice I give, or the opinion I have, it's fine.

Sometimes you can't get through to people no matter how long and hard you try.

advice

I am the.."advisenator" of all my friends. Now, I odn't know how but all my friends are depressed and are the type of people noone would suggest me to hang out with but I help them mentally a lot. and they tell me all their problems and stress and i help them feel better. But now it feels like it's all added to me and im starting to go down. What can i do?

Sometimes it's hard being a good listener and a good friend because often it does feel like the all problems have just been passed to you. The way I think of it though, is that now the burden has been divided between people so you each aren't weighed down as much as if it were just one person carrying it. It kinda brings comfort to me when I feel stressed about my issues along with my friends. It's wonderful that you are such a great friend as to help and listen to these stressful problems.
One way to relieve some of this stress, and I know this might sound silly, is to tell yourself what you advised your friends to make them feel better. Think, 'What advice would I give one of my friends?' and then give it to yourself. Follow your own advice. Trust me, it helps. If it helped your friends through their rough times, then shouldn't it help you too?

[view]

(Rating: 5) thank you
<<< Previous Advice Column
Next Advice Column >>>
eXTReMe Tracker