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Q: How do you know if a guy is a player? You see my crush told me like 4 weeks ago that he had a girlfriend (came up in a casual conversation) and now he like looks me in the eye and he was touching his leg with mine today and he kept moving his torso toward me, and calling me blonde teasingly...but i asked what someone thought on this sight, and they said he sounds like a player, but i disagree, then i started thinking more and more (like i did throughout the day saying "what could he want with me? he is a senior and i am a freshman!) how could i tell??

PS REMEMBER!!! this is four weeks later!

and can you awnser my original question also, how do you know if a guy is a player?
thank you...

I don't see your original question, honey, but I'll answer this one.
Okay, let's see...Ah, the old freshman/senior cliche. I dated a senior when I was a freshman. You gotta be careful with age differences. He could be looking for a different kind of relationship than you, and - not to put too fine a point on it, but - he could easily just want sex from you.
Or, he could've broken up with his girlfriend and be looking at you.
Whatever the reason is for him eying you right now, if he has a girl, don't do anything with him. I'm sure you know that, though.
If you can, I'd try to find out from someone else if he has a girl or not. If he does, he's a creep and doesn't deserve your attentions or affections. Don't ask HIM about his girl, 'cause he could easily lie.
It sounds suspicious to me, so I'd watch it if I were you.
If you can find your question and want to send me a link to it, I'll read and answer that too.
Good luck, let me know what happens if you like.
-Siren =)

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