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Sometimes you can't get through to people no matter how long and hard you try.
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okay so when i was a kid i made some bad friends... which lead to some legal issues... and my dad was put in jail for awhile because my friends said that he was a sex offender, even thought later on they addmitted that it was a childish prank that went too far. anyway, due to the legal issues that my dad had to face he lost his mind and he thinks everyone's out to get him, he won't get any help because phyciatrists are "evil". basically i ca't deal with his mood swings but i have to because i ruined his life, which my sister, godfather, grandma, and some friends who know about the sistuation keep on reminding me. i skip school to stay home and help around the house, i'm always there for him, and i take care of and drive around my helpless 18 year-old sister because she "needs" to be taken care of. but i do all this without complaining because i hate myself and i ruined his life so i can't hlp but do anyhting he asks, he really is a great dad and he tries really hard... how can i say no to his requests when i owe him everything because we had everything and i ruined it?
It sounds to me that people around you are placing the blame on you when the blame should really be on those ex-friends of yours. You made one mistake by hanging out with bad people, and they are the ones who messed up your dad. Everyone makes mistakes; it's a part of life.
It's great that you help out your family, but do it because you love them and not because you're trying to make up for a mistake you made years ago.
As for your loved ones keeping reminding you that it's "all your fault", maybe you should consider talking to them about how this is making you feel about yourself. Just let it out and stop blaming yourself... =) Feel better
(Rating: 5) thanks