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My name is Teza.. short for Tereza. I was born in Croatia and I speak more than one language. I'm 22 years old & I completed 2 college degrees in 3 years. My a bachelors is in Business Administration concentration in Human Resources and my Masters degree is also in HR.
I started this advice column about 9years ago and I was so young but it was something that I always loved to do. I am trying to get back to answering questions, at least a few per day. With that said, if you have questions about school, friends, make up, etc., feel free to ask.
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So I'm pretty much the most good goody you have ever seen. I'm 16/f. I have a 4.0 GPA. I am chosen to be in senior classes even though I am a shophmore. I do everything when I am suppose to do it and how I am supposed to do it. I have never drank, did drugs, or had sex. But I am so sick of being the same old boring me. All of my friends believe in no sex before marrige. Well now I'm starting to think sex before marrige isn't so bad as long as it's with someone you care about. Well I really want to change into someone who has a little more fun. No drugs though. But will I ruin my reputation? Is it worth the risk to ruin something like that? I am really tore. But I know I'm not one of those who wants to go out every night and get wasted. I just want to live some of my high school years in fun. It's not like I'm a dork either. I was prom queen my freshman year. I was homecoming attendant our first year. I'm "popular" I guess you would say. But anyways should I try it? Or should I just stick to the goody goody I am?
Drinking does not make you have more fun. Doing drugs does not make you have more fun. There is nothing wrong with being a good student and having good grades. Having fun comes from people's personalitites and it's up to you on how you chose to enjoy yourself. Why would you want to do any of those things just because you don't want to be "safe" all the time. Who are you trying to impress? I'm not trying to seem rude but I honestly think it's patehtic how you're trying to change who you are to be doing what everyone else is. There are plenty of other things you can do to have fun. You have to think about what you're doing before it's too late. I'm sure that you don't want to ruin things while it's going good for you. Sex before marriage is totally up to you. If you are okay with it as long as you're with someone you care about, then fine but don't listen to other people's outputs on it. I personaly don't think it's worth risking everything you've worked hard on just to have some fun drinking. It may seem fun or cool because your friends or people around you do it, but you don't have to put yourself in that situation.. ya know? Keep being how you are and don't change for the worse. You're only sixteen and there will be PLENTY of time for you to grow up and expirience alcohol. Just be more outgoing and enjoy life as you can. Don't ruin it by doing something stupid or you might regret it.
(Rating: 5) I guess I was really wanting you to say what you said all along. I just needed someone to tell me it because I can't talk to my friends about this stuff. They'll start yelling at me. And I'm really not trying to impress anyone I just get sick of staying home every night. And where I live there is nothing else to do.