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My name is Angel, and I'm from northern California. I come from a large family where I'm the oldest, and I've lived a long, strange life. I have just about seen it all. In the last couple years, I have kicked a bad drug/alcohol addiction, and I can proudly say that I'm a sober teenage girl. I have a job, I'm a nanny/family assistant, whatever you want to call it. I'm a senior in high school, and I'm genuinely happy. I have a boyfriend, and we've been together for almost a year now. I have a lot of good advice, because I have a lot of life experience. I come from a broken family, I have step-relatives, and half-relatives. I just reunited with my mother after 10 years. My sister is a drug addict of the worst possible kind. I've been in all types of relationships. I guess it's safe to say that I know a little bit about a lot of things, and there's a lot that I know a lot about. Then there's things that I know nothing about, and that's when I ask questions. Thanks for reading my little rant, ask me anything. I check my email everyday, so if you can't reach me on my column, email me. ~Angel xoxo
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okay so i met my boyfriend about 7 years ago and hes two years older hen me, we didnt decide to start dating until july of 07. lately he yells at me alot and trys telling me what i can and cannot do and he even has other girls before me on his myspace page, i dont know what to do. For christmas he bought me a very expencive necklace and told me he wanted to be with me for a long time and everytime i accuse him of being a player he says "if i was playin you i wouldnt of bought u anything and we wouldnt have been together for this long" [he has a bad history of being a player] so what should i do? how do i know if hes cheating? and should i leave him?
What I would do for your own sake and self-respect is set boundaries. Don't let him tell you what you can and cannot do, that's controlling. You have to set boundaries for yourself and simply say, "I'm not comfortable doing/not doing that." You'll find that he'll respect you a lot more later on.
As far as myspace goes, it's myspace. If he's cheating on you through myspace he's not even worth your time. But as far as knowing if he's cheating on you or not, there's no way of "knowing." If he can't be honest with you about it [which would be hard for him I'm sure] then you have a couple of choices. You can break up with him just because you had doubt in his loyalty, or you could stay with him and set boundaries for yourself.
People say "once a player, always a player." Well, I believe people do change. You might be the girl that takes the player out of the game, you know what I mean. You just have to be honest with yourself and ask yourself if he's worth keeping around. Maybe he's not mature enough for someone like you. I think that once you've gotten some good advice, and a clear head, you should have a serious conversation with him, without arguing, and just tell him how you're feeling and what it is you want, and what you want from him. If he is willing to respect your wishes, then give him another chance [that's just my advice. do what you do], if he wants to argue, then don't waste your time. You can't change him, he has to be willing to change. This is just my personal opinion, if you didn't like what I have to say there are plenty of people with a lot of different opinions, but I hope you do what's right for you. Good luck and keep me posted hun. ~Love Angel
(Rating: 5) Thanks so much
thats really good advise