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My name is Angel, and I'm from northern California. I come from a large family where I'm the oldest, and I've lived a long, strange life. I have just about seen it all. In the last couple years, I have kicked a bad drug/alcohol addiction, and I can proudly say that I'm a sober teenage girl. I have a job, I'm a nanny/family assistant, whatever you want to call it. I'm a senior in high school, and I'm genuinely happy. I have a boyfriend, and we've been together for almost a year now. I have a lot of good advice, because I have a lot of life experience. I come from a broken family, I have step-relatives, and half-relatives. I just reunited with my mother after 10 years. My sister is a drug addict of the worst possible kind. I've been in all types of relationships. I guess it's safe to say that I know a little bit about a lot of things, and there's a lot that I know a lot about. Then there's things that I know nothing about, and that's when I ask questions. Thanks for reading my little rant, ask me anything. I check my email everyday, so if you can't reach me on my column, email me. ~Angel xoxo

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15/f/freshman

kay so i have a boyfriend and we've been dating for about 3 months. it's not that long i know but is it bad that like i don't tell him everything and i know things about him but like not everyyything? it seems like everytime i see someone being a couple they know everrything about eachother and tell them everyyyything. i'm kinda shy and new to the whole actual dating and going places with a boyfriend so i get kinda nervous around him but it's gotten way better. also we started "dating" like a few days after we met so i think we're still developing in our relationship a lot. thats not bad right? and i love him but i'm not "in love" with him you know like it's a friend love but a little more then that.

another question, like i said i get nervous and like can't think of what to talk about around him because i'm so afraid that i'm going to sound dumb. i'm really insecure. how do should i attempt to break that shell?

i don't know, i think it might be better now that i have lunch with him next semester, so anyone who helps, thanks a ton, i mean it =]

I have been with my boyfriend for almost a year and we don't know everything about each other yet. You've only been with your boyfriend for three months, you shouldn't know everything about him by now, if you did, there would be no interesting element of your relationship, you would have nothing to talk about. Sometimes what me and my boyfriend do is we will actually set time aside from our friends and jobs and stuff and we'll go get coffee and talk about ourselves and get to know eachother, like a date, but we've been in a relationship for a long time.

It's not bad to get into a relationship with someone you just met, chances are this wont be permanent, although I hate to be a pessimist, hardly anything lasts forever these days.

As far as being insecure goes, I have that same problem. I always feel like my boyfriend's going to judge me or think I'm stupid. Tell your guy how you feel, tell him you don't want to sound stupid, you never know. Maybe he'll think that's cute about you, or maybe he feels the same way. You say you guys don't know each other well enough. Just flat out tell him one day, "I don't know what to talk about sometimes because I'm afraid I'll sound stupid."

Insecurities are a derivative of fear. That is to say, you're insecure because there is some fear behind your insecurity. For me, I don't like to open up because I'm afraid the real me isn't good enough. I have to constantly remind myself that I'm good enough. Try doing that. Maybe write on your mirror "[YOUR NAME] You're Amazing!" It sounds cheesy, but it totally works for me and everyone I've advised to do the same. Sorry my response was so long. If you need any relationship advice, leave me one in my inbox. Take care and good luck love. Keep me posted. -Angel

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