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My name is Teza.. short for Tereza. I was born in Croatia and I speak more than one language. I'm 22 years old & I completed 2 college degrees in 3 years. My a bachelors is in Business Administration concentration in Human Resources and my Masters degree is also in HR.

I started this advice column about 9years ago and I was so young but it was something that I always loved to do. I am trying to get back to answering questions, at least a few per day. With that said, if you have questions about school, friends, make up, etc., feel free to ask.

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I'd just like to say that i am an active member of the "advicenators team" and i hate reading stupid questions like this, but i really need some advice.

15/f
My friend meg broke up with her boyfriend jake over the summer. jake and i have been friends since they were going out ( i met him through her ) i transferred schools and i now go to school with jake and meg. so i used to talk to jake ever night, and he seemed so sweet. he told me i was beautiful and that he loved me. i didnt really believe him, but i fell for him anyway. so i told my friends (including meg) i liked him. they told me about all the bad stuff he had done, and how hes sort of a player, and some admitted to liking him too. the words one girl used was like "everyone falls in love with him"
anyways, he did some really bad things to my friends, and just as things started getting amazing between jake and i, i blew it. i screamed at him and told him i hated him. he kept his cool. he was like you really dont hate me. i mean think about all the good times we've had. and you love me you know it. the truth, yeah i did. even when i told him i hated him, i knew i loved him. but i was so mad at what he had done, i told him i never wanted to even speak to him again. he took that seriously. we havent talked in like a week (yeah i know thats like nothing) but i really miss him. i still love him (not serious love, but i really really like him) i want to IM him and tell him im sorry, but then arent i giving in to him? giving him just what he wants? ive tried hard to get over this kid, but i cant keep my mind off him! what do i do?
sorry and thank you.

What happened between Jake and his ex girlfriends has nothing to do with you & him even though they were your friends. Has he ever done anything to hurt you? You shouldn't of yelled at him and argued for something in the past because it has nothing to do with you. You should defenetly talk to him and apologize for how you have acted and give him a chance to talk. He could of felt something different for you than he has with other girls and he might be a different guy. Saying sorry and admiting you're wrong isn't "giving in" to him. You're being a bigger person and I'm sure that you don't want to end things with Jake this way. Things between you guys can be different and see how he is for yourself. Don't listen to other people and judge him of that because it isn't fair. I hope everything works out between you guys.

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