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Q: ok long story but you say your good with love advice so im counting on you!!!

My bgf loves me-a lot, and i love him but as a friend. everyone says we are perfect for each other and i know we like 'complete' each other or w/e but it just doesnt seem right. im moving this summer so we want to see if dating is right or not but when he holds my hand and stuff i slide my hand back and it feels weird. my friends think i might just be really nervous but its just with PDA! I totally dont care if im his gf because we are practically together anyways if you know what i mean and we are so close the only difference in dating would be PDA. with other boys i loved PDA and he knows that but with him i feel really weird about it and dont let him! i feel bad because he asked me out and i said no cause it just doesnt feel right but i so lead him on! i told him i think i want to try it but if i dont like it to stop and just be friends cause i dont want to lose this friendship and im only here for like 6 more months anyways! So do you think i should try dating him because im probably just nervous because this would be my first serious boyfriend and he and i are best friends or that this really isnt right cause i obviously feel really weird about everything and just be friends? thanks SOOO much!

I'll do my best!

Well, this all really boils down to what you feel, what your instincts are telling you. If you can't picture the two of you as anything more than friends, then don't bother. It'll ruin your friendship.
If you're curious, though, why not give it a shot? It could turn out to be a great relationship, and you'll have fun, and the fact that you had a friendship to start off will only make it better.
But I have to tell you that you CANNOT by any means agree to turn your friendship into anything more if it would only be to make him happy. If that would make you unhappy, then he will be unhappy, and the relationship will be a flop anyway.
If I can make a suggestion, why don't you freewrite about it? Open a blank document on your computer, and just start typing. Don't fix mistakes or typos, just keep going. Either don't stop until you've reached a conclusion, or set your timer for ten minutes to an hour, however long you feel comfortable writing about it.
If you try that and still need help, drop another question in my inbox - I check it every day.
Good luck!
-Siren =)

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thanks! that's great advice! ;]

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