If you'll have sex with him just because you don't want to lose him, that's a BAD IDEA. If you're ready, that's perfectly fine. But if you're doing it just because, not a good foundation for the relationship.

If he can't like/love you for who you are without trying to get in your pants, that's not the type of guy you want. Because it is possible to lose him either way. Consider this:

You give it up, he dumps you.
You don't give it up, he dumps you.

If you can honestly put your trust in him, go for it.

But believe me, I've been put in this situation before. And yes, I do realize that this puts a TON of pressure on you. But you can't let him (or your body!) make the decisions for you.

Also, you don't list your age. So, ESPECIALLY if you're under 16, I wouldn't even be considering ANYTHING.

(And I'm not condoning pre-marital sex)

I hope this puts things into perspective,
Jess♥

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