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Q: Hey,
So, being the random person I am, I sat here thinking about why everyone always thinks they're fat, all of a sudden.
Like, not all of a sudden, but lately-everyone's complaining about their weight.
Even I am not happy with my weight, at about ninety-five pounds (14).
But the thing that I don't understand is how we've all convinced ourselves that we look horrible? I mean-and I am even guilty of it-how can everyone look into the mirror and see something so much more distorted than what's really there?
We should be so much more confident!
Does anyone have any stories or personal experiences relating to this? Any advice for those going through this?
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Well, there's actually a disorder called body dysmorphia, where someone looks in the mirror and sees imperfections and problems that aren't actually there.
I had that for awhile (managed to kick it, but it still comes back sometimes), where I'd look in the mirror and see myself about 20 pounds heavier than I really was.
I'm 5'4" and I weigh 124. I actually have a lot of toned muscle, so I look like I weigh less than I do. For the longest time I thought I was like, huge. It wasn't until someone wrapped his hands around my waist and picked me up - like not his arms, his hands - that I realized I was actually a lot smaller than I seemed to think.
Then I went back to my parents' house and realized I could fit into clothes I hadn't been able to wear for years.
So that's one reason, the disorder. Other reasons have a lot to do with society and the media. Both of those sources cause women/girls to think that they have to be stick figures to be beautiful, and we're all judged so harshly by everyone else that we start doing it to ourselves, and can DEVELOP those disorders.
Society sucks, in short. Lol.
My advice, every time you look in the mirror, pay attention to what you love about yourself. Pose. Dance. Make funny faces, but make yourself feel gorgeous.
If you see something you don't like - flab, for example - work out that day, or something.
Working out is also a good tool. It gives you endorphins, which make you feel good. I dunno about you, but knowing I'm doing something to make my body look even better makes me feel good on top of the endorphins. Give that a shot - just make sure you don't overdo it.
Good luck!
-Siren =)
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I'm a laid-back 26 year old with a Psychology BA, starting my MA program, and working my way into the field as quickly as I can. It took me an extra Bachelor's degree (in vocal performance and creative writing) to figure it out, but I was put on this Earth to help, to heal, and to love.
I have made the decision to dedicate my life and career to helping others. I am here to do just that.
I've been a member since 2004, and since I signed up, I've gone through quite a lot and learned quite a lot from it. I'm here to give guidance where I had none; no one should have to go through the difficulties I went through alone.
Feel free to visit my website/blog, if you want to read my experience with domestic violence and my thoughts on it.
***While I do tend to answer mental health and other health-related or medicine-related questions, I am by NO MEANS a licensed physician or practitioner of any sort. Any and all advice I give for these questions is from my own experience or studies.***
If you need to get a hold of me quickly, my screen name on AIM is SirenCytherea. Just let me know you found me here.
I'm a strong believer in the idea that there are no stupid questions except the ones left unasked, so, please, keep an open mind, heart, and mouth.
Siren
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