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this is crazy i knw..... i met this guy who considered me one of his best friends. we hung out all the time and did everything couples do together with out the kissing/makingout/sex part. we held hands hugged at one point walked with his shoulder around me and stuff.......
i thought he was gay so i never really considered that there would be anything there...
later though about 7 or 8 months after we met and right be4 we went our separate since he graduated (he's 22 i am 20).... i told him the truth about how in that past month i was a bit infatuated by him..... very very to say the least...... at somepoint i had doubts about him being bi... because his signs of flirting are always direct with both men and women.... and i figured since we're always together and he hasnt sed anything then maybe he was just gay.... anyway .... wen i told him i told him rite after that i hope this dsnt change or alter our friendship he said he was completly fine with and we even went out that night...
a month later:
i still like him a bit since he was honestly the funnest guy i'd been with.... plus he always makes me feel assured about myself....... but its summer and i am abroad and i met this other guy very very formally... and there may be sparks in the middle... i am still not sure i'm going to have to get to knw him.....he's cute and all but the problem is that i still keep thinking about the other guy since i feel its not over yet and since he has been IMing me constantly asking about this new guy.... he sounds pissed and he always says he'd "save " me and misses me and that he wants to elope with me and things..... i miss him too but i don't know what he's trying to get to....
i never asked hiim about his sexuality and i think its stupid to do so now.... what do i do?!
i just need ppls opinions on this situation... (link)
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im going through the same kind of situation right now. my best friend holds hands with me and puts his arm around my shoulder like couples do. he doesnt like me though. and everyone assumes he is gay or bi and im not sure if he is because he told me he was confused at first but now hes not anymore. the only thing you can do is ask him if he likes you. if he says he doesnt then you have to move on because if he doesnt then he most likely is gay. most guy girl best friend situations dont involve this much flirting. but gay guys show a lot of affection to girls because they feel more comfortable around them. so just ask him. hope it goes well. if you need anything im here for you...
SAM
hey. ok a good way to ask him or find out if he likes you is by just asking him if he likes you. tell him it kinda seems like he does and say other people have noticed it too. if he says no then just say "oh i dont like you like that either, but i just wanted to know if you do." and of course if he says yes then you can tell him how you feel. i suggest not getting your friends too involved because they can make things more complicated. that was my mistake, it turned into the talk of the school! well good luck and anything you need leave me a message in my inbox
SAM
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ah at last someone who gets it!!
thanx so much!
though i must ask how do you think i shud bring up the topic ? and if he denies wot do i say?! i mean he always ALWAYs jokes about him rescuing me from "tying the knot" -he dsnt agree with it and he blvs its just heartache...his parents are divorced- and i never joke back about it or anything... like wen he asked about the guy i just told him the truth no i had no pics and his age was this and he is that.... etc. so i am not sure how to handle him next time around.... and i am afraid it'll get in the way of me having new relationships..... :s when we were together though he was always in physical contact with me though... as i've said he always tries to be close... but since i am very firm and sort of set limits he dsnt go that far as he duz with his other girl friends (who again also confuse me by saying "all [their] male frnds are really gay" i mean though i've known him for way shorter than they have and they are supposedly his best friends he spends wayyyyy more time with me than anyof them we are basically glued at the hip if we have no class and he usually finds me.... plus at there was this time when i went out with him and his friends (who became my frnds since i was new in town and they kind of "adopted" me) and i got a bit tipsy. he brot along his straight friend who was extremely shy and who the other girls assumed was gay. he was hanging with two of his girlfrnds (he has about 5 close ones and 1 close guy frnd who is dating one of the girls) anyway so he kind of ignored me so i spent time with the others. when it was time for dancing i let go of limits (FOR ONE NITE! and it was a goodbye party) and started grinding with the guy (he initiated i just went along) then i notice my frnd looking from across the room just standing there with out the two girls and looikng at me.... later he pretended to just dance and he got closer until i began grinding with him he even (some how) protectivly dragged me away from his friend (who knew no one but him and who was shy talking to no one unless they talked to him) this was all during the day when i told him i liked him..... he seemed sort of fine with it i guess... and as we danced he kept looking into my eyes but i was still embaresed so i avoided eye contact and pretended to be consumed with dancing.... he was also a bit drunk i don't know if that helps...... he is confusing me..... personality wise he's abit self centered so everything revolves around him (he needs that constant support which i usually am for everyone not just him so it dsnt bother me)...
he kisses one of his girl frnds on the lips too... and she always jokes with him as being her boy toy and sex game and who knows what else she says..... he is confusing me! i really like the new guy but i need to know if he still thinks there is something.... i want him to move on....
well sorry for this being toooo long! thanx again though for you help! and oh excuse the spelling coz i am writing this in a rush!
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