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Q: Can people with REAL relationship experience please answer? People that have been in serious relationships that lasted more than a few months? Thanks.

I'm 17/f and he's 21/m. We've been together since July 5th of 2005. It's the first serious relationship each of us has had.

Everthing was going wonderfully between us until the beginning of this year. We fought over stupid things. I kept getting really angry with him because he wouldn't go get a job and all he cared about was playing his computer and video games. He IS in college though and is going for internet security, so that was a good thing. Most of the time we worked through whatever problems we might have had, though. I really got better at respecting his hobbies and such. Plus he finally has a job now. Okay.

Lately though, I just feel like I don't want to be around him because I know it will be boring or he'll just make me angry in some shape or form. I don't want to hang out with just him because I know we'll just sit around and be bored because there's nothing to do.

Whenever he calls to say goodnight or something, sometimes I don't even pick up the phone because there's nothing to talk about or I don't even want to talk to him.

The point I'm getting to is that I think I might be falling out of love with him. I don't know if maybe it's because I see him too much or what, but I see our relationship more as really best friends instead of loving boyfriend and girlfriend. I know I care about him because I would never want him out of my life.

So my question is, how do I fall back in love with him? How do I make our relationship more fun and loving? We've been together for nearly two years and I can't figure out a way to keep things as lively as they were the first few months we went out.

At this point, I'm not sure a "break" would work for us because I'm going to college in the fall. If we took a break, that would be it and I know we'd be done. So that's a last resort.

I know that deep down, some part of me needs to stay with him and keep loving him because I'm asking this question. I want to find that part of me and bring it out. I want to be just as much in love with this man as I was the first time I told him.

Any advice?

you dont have to listen to me because im only thirteen and i dont have a lot of experience.
i have had a boyfriend for the past year though. if that helps.
anyways, i think anybody who can consideer the situation objectively can help.

think about what you used to talk about. was it more getting to know eachother? if it was, then maybe the apeal of the relationship was getting to know a new person. if it is, then try to get to know a new part about him. ask him for his opinion on a world crisis or philisophy.

if you used to talk about him in college, maybe you just liked that he was older and had more experiences? if this is true then you can talk to him about his first year of college and ask for his advice.

if you used to flirt like crazy, then maybe you should go back to the old flirting teasing.

some things dont last foreever. your young. you have the rest of your life ahead of you. if you and himdo break up, you will have plenty of time to meet new people.

and you can always stay friends with him..

good luck!!!!!

everything will work out for the best.

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FRIENDS ARE LIKE ELEVATOR BUTTONS. THEY CAN EITHER BRING YOU UP OR TAKE YOU DOWN. CHOOSE WISELY
A friend will let you borrow their umbrella but a best friend will take yours and scream "Run Loser Run!!!"
we are all angels
with one wing
and we can wonly fly
with the help of somone else
my friends are my wings

TRUE FRIENDS
THEY ARE HARD TO FIND
DIFFICULT TO LEAVE
AND IMPOSSIBLE TO FORGET!

you can pick your friends, and you can pick your nose! but you cant pick your friends nose

killers stab you in the head
Frenemies stab you in the back
boys stab you in the heart
but best friends dont carry knives

a best friend will never ever come to bail you out of jail so never use your one phone call on them
i tried that, but she wouldent pick up. when i got back to our jail cell, i asked her why she wouldent pick up her phone.

theres no thing as strangers. there are only friends we havent met yet

ill give you advice the best that i can
im only 13 so the advice i give you may not be the best
but ive made tons of mistakes so i can relate
and im obsessed with shopping so anything with clothes i can help
and im always here if you want to talk or hang out or anything
im giving you the truth straight up
i am a brutally honest person
Im also fun-loving and adorable
I consider myseld a happy person
I just happen to love black
Do not call me gothic or ill kill you