I don't think you are at all pathetic or out of touch with reality. Okay, the gay phase aside; What is this guy doing with you? He is playful and flirtatious and giving you lots of attention, but not wanting a girlfriend. If you want to continue this way, then don't change what you are doing. If you don't want to continue the torture, then you have to move on. Holding onto hope is only good if there is reason to hold on. If he said he wanted to be with only you, but did not want to rush it, you might have reason to hope. However, hope alone will not gain you anything but more wasted time, effort, energy and emotion. Even if he was enthusiastic about kissing you or making out, there would be a big chance he would not want to have a girlfriend. Do you really want that? I know it is hard to be objective and that is why you were smart enough to ask the advice of someone who is. Now be smart enough to figure out what it is you want the most and if this guy fits the bill. Maybe he is worth the wait. Only you can know for sure, but I do know that you cannot make something happen that both people are not totally enthusiastic about. It is one thing to be patient and wait for love to bloom, and another thing to pine away on a fantasy and miss other opportunities. How long are you willing not to only wait, but to potentially waste??? Life is short, so keep your eyes and heart open to more than this one fish in the sea. I promise you that there will be many many more in your near future to choose among.

again thanx

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