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Yesterday, I went to the mall with my Mom. I found a really cute skirt, and a top. When I tried it on, my mom insisted that "they were too tight." This happens ALL the time when we go shopping. Every time I try something on, my mom says, "No, its too tight" or "I think you need a bigger size," when I really don't. Something could fit just fine, and she would still insist that it is too small.

So the other day, I started crying, because she never likes ANYTHING that I try on. Then she asked me what was wrong, and I said, "Apparently I'm fat!" And she goes, "Oh no, you're not fat. The clothes just run small."

Mind you, I am a pants size 0, and I weigh 88 pounds. When I was younger, I used to be kind of chubby. I don't know why my mom does this- I'm trying to decide if it's because I really do look fat, or if its because she thinks I look good and doesn't want me to wear tight/revealing clothes. I am very upset, and lately I've been feeling like I don't want to eat. I decided to give up candy, and I fear becoming anorexic. Yet my mom, (who is not thin) continues to encourage me to eat candy.

Should I say something the next time she does this? I am getting really pissed off, and I feel like shouting, "You're just jealous because I'm not fat like you!" at her.

To start off, YOU'RE NOT FAT!! Don't think that at all.

This is something advicenators isn't going to know how to fix. It's between you and your mom. The best thing would be is to talk to her, in a calm manner. Tell her that you know the size you should wear, and the things you pick are based on comfort, not all style. Tell her when you buy stuff, that you want to be able to pick it out, because you're definitely a teenager [I hope you're over 13, or you shouldn't be on this site]

One thing you don't want to do, is call your mom fat. That wont get you anywhere but grounded for a month. Believe me, I've said some pretty nasty darn things to my mom, and she took it too far.

Don't become anorexic, because thats not the way out. That will just get you so skinny, until you die. If you want to lose a few pounds, which in my viewing, you don't need to, then just do some excersizing, and cut back on the candy. Tell your mom you don't want to eat any candy!


I hope I helped. If you need anything further -- feel free to leave on in my inbox. :]

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