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Q: I don't know how if this will make sense but my boyfriend was a big whore, and had sex with many girls, and is an expierenced man, and well i'm the total opposite, i've only madeout and been felt up, and I know he wants to go further than just kissing, and we never have time for eachother, but id be lost without him, and whenever i'm with him I really do want to do stuff with him but i'm pretty shy, and he sucks at making the first move, and he thinks that he likes me alot more than I like him, how am I going to be able to prove to him that I like him as much as he likes me, and how do I become less shy!
Honey, you don't need to prove anything. He knows you like him and that is enough. If he is a "big whore" and you are not, than that is just the way it is. Maybe he should prove himself to you? If he does not get sex from you, will he dump you? That would be his problem and not yours. Will he lose interest in you as soon as he gets what he wants? Maybe. Think about these things before you do something stupid that you will regret. He may even has an std and you definately don't need that. Having sex does not make him a man. If he really does like you then he will make time for you and never pressure you to do more than you want to do...ever. You will become less shy when you are ready and comfortable and feel secure with someone who does not pressure you in any way. You are worth waiting for and you alone should decide when, where, and how you want to be sexually active with your own body. Until you want it at least as much as your boyfriend, put it off. No guy has ever died from blue balls, but millions have whined and pleaded and pressured girls to go all the way and then dumped them soon afterwards. It is your decision.

Thank you! I know what your saying, and i'll think thoroughly, you were a big help and opened my mind, thanks!

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