The risks may be lower, but they are still real. A number of diseases can be attributed to from oral sex. Some diseases take months for symptoms to appear, so you never know. Also, the reality of cheating or a partner's sexual past being not fully disclosed keeps anyone from REALLY KNOWING every thing and every one the partner has experienced. http://www.thewellproject.org/en_US/HIV_The_Basics/Oral_Sex_Whats_the_Real_Risk.jsp;jsessionid=FCyMYMGwCL8DFGDdxytRK1rMxwpdmTfn0vrjPyLG60Mky6RG4466!-44492584
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Tips for safer oral sex
There are things you can do to reduce the risk of oral sex:

Don’t have oral sex if you or your partner has mouth sores (such as oral herpes lesions).
Discreetly inspect your partner’s genitals for lesions.
If you find something, don’t believe your partner if he or she tells you it was caused by “the heat,” or “the weather,” or “the clothes.” You should avoid any contact with the area until a doctor has examined it.
Don’t floss, brush your teeth, or engage in any behavior that would create abrasions or cuts in your mouth prior to performing oral sex. Use mouthwash or a breath mint instead.
Avoid swallowing pre-cum, semen, or vaginal fluids.
Use latex condoms for oral sex on a man (try the unlubricated, flavored ones).
If you perform oral sex without a condom, finish up with the hand, or spit semen out and rinse with a mouthwash rather than swallowing.
Use a dental dam for oral sex on a woman or for rimming (licking the anus).
Dental dams are large squares made from latex. Plastic food wrap (not microwave-style plastic wrap) is just as effective. Put some water-based lube on one side of the dam or plastic wrap. Then stretch the dam over the vagina or anus with the lubed side facing down. This gives you a thin barrier between your mouth and the vagina or anus.
Avoid vaginal oral sex during menstruation to prevent contact with blood.
Look after your mouth. The likelihood of oral HIV transmission increases if you have bleeding gums, ulcers, cuts, sores or infections in the mouth.
Find alternatives
Massage your partner, use caresses, or mutual masturbation.
Use a vibrator (use a condom when sharing).
Avoid vigorous, prolonged oral sex ("deep-throating").
Avoid mouth or throat trauma caused by a large number of partners in a short period of time.
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