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Q: Okay well I'm almost 14 and I'm not really involved in any sports or activities. I tried out for modeling, the company wanted me,but they wanted too much money, so my mom said no. I was kind of crushed,but I got over it. But sometimes I just feel like the most boring person even though I know I can be fun, but when it comes to activies I dont do anything and seem really boring. At times I feel like a fat person who cant do anything. I feel sad and like I'm losing my mind. I feel stressed out and like I have too many things to do. I always have tons of projects and homework and chores. Honestly I feel like slacking off, because I get straight A's and I'm in an honors class. When it comes to my report card full of A's my mom nags me to bring them higher and I feel like I do all this work and she doesn't appreciate any of it. Me and my mom dont have much of a close relationship,because we just dont get along. Her personality doesnt fit mine at all and she knows that me and her act completely different, because she says it all the time, but I dont think she realizes that we dont get along. Also, I've had this secret for many years that's not about me and that only my parents know, but I think they've forgotten by now or dont think about it. Sometimes I think about it and it drives me crazy and eats me up inside. I want to talk to someone about it,but I feel like if I did something bad might happen and it would be all my fault. My mom asked me about a year ago if I wanted to see a psychiatrist and I just laughed about it and said no, but now I think I might want to take her up on that offer, but I'm not sure if I need to see one, because its not like I have some serious mental problems. The main reason I could see myself talking to one is because of how I dont feel happy with myself and a big secret that no one knows. Does it sound like I need help? Or i dont know, just tell me what you think.
Not knowing what your secret is, I can still imagine how terrible it is to hold on to that burden and be eaten up by it. Talking to someone...anyone about it can be very freeing and empowering. I know, I have been there! You will wish you had done it earlier. Even if you can't get to a therapist, talk to a school teacher or couselor or just tell a friend you trust. Even anonymously telling someone can help you. Get it all out of you by talking about it or writing it out. You will find that you will be able to do more for yourself in your life when you get rid of this baggage. If you want you can leave it to me in my inbox. Good luck.

Thanks so much.. I appreciate it. U helped u kno.

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