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This is going to get complicated. Read carefully. Lydia was married to Kyle for 5 years. Billy and I were engaged, but never got married because I found out we're actually cousins. (He doesn't know that & I'm afraid to tell him.) Well, Lydia was already thinking about divorcing Kyle so when she met Billy she jumped all over him. Kyle was mad and divorced her. Billy dated Lydia to make me jealous. I dated Kyle to make Lydia mad and jealous. At first I only wanted to get Kyle and Lydia back together, but now I've fallen in love with Kyle. Billy is still in love with me, but got engaged to Lydia anyway. I think Kyle and Lydia still have feelings for each other but I need help bringing those feelings out again. Kyle says he's in love with me but I know he & I can never get serious because, even though I love him, he's got to much baggage. Example: I'm still a virgin and he's got 3 kids. Actually, that's the problem. I WAS a virgin, until Billy and I got caught up in a moment. I think Billy's going to break up with Lydia because he thinks now that we made love, I'm going to change my mind and be with him. I still can't! What on earth do I do to get Kyle & Lydia back together and convince Billy that he & I are over for good all without hurting anyone too badly? HELP! I'm in way over my head!

Wow. Interesting situation.

I see this in two different ways. One:
Tell Billy that you and him are in fact, cousins. That way, he can get over you and on with his life. Now, if you really do love Kyle and you think he loves you as well, see if it can work out. Yeah, that does seem like a lot of baggage, but who says it can't work? So you get the guy you love and if Lydia and Billy love each other (which won't be a problem for Billy now since he'll know your situation with him) then they get each other.

But if you're absolutely sure you cannot be with Kyle here's number two:
Tell Billy that you and him are in fact, cousins. That way, he can get over you and on with his life. Sit down and talk to him about it, as uncomfortable as it may be. Ask him if he's only with Lydia to get back at you. If he is, tell him that it's just so unfair to her.

After Billy is taken care of, tell Kyle how you really feel. You can't be with a man that already has 3 children because you're just nto ready for it.

At this point, all else you can do is tell Kyle and Lydia to think about what they want and who they want. They have 3 children together (I'm guessing?) and they've been married for 5 years. If they still have feelings for each other, it might be worth giving that another shot. Telling them that, might get them thinking.

Other than that, you can't MAKE then get back together. They have to figure that out for themselves. All you can do is fix things with Billy and Kyle. Good luck.

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(Rating: 5) Thank you so much for giving me advice!

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