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My name is Abby. I'm 14. I am a freshman at DHS. I live in MA. I like to sing dance, write songs and poetry and I play softball.

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Ok, I have been having dreams of being with other men even though I have a bf. I love my bf and would never cheat on him. I used to have those dreams a lot but it stopped for a while but now there back =/. I hate it, I used to just get up and forget about it, its just a dream right? But now they are really bothering me. I love my boyfriend so much and our two-year anniversary is coming up. We tell each other everything but I haven’t been able to tell him about this cause he can get very jealous. He tells me stuff like that and it really wouldn’t bother me. Should I tell him? Is there anyway to make the dreams stop? Do they mean something? I used to like all the guys that I dream about, but i really don’t like them anymore. This is how my last dream went...

We were on school busses and they left us at what looked like a mall but also a school. Any way my bf was with me but we got separated and I hung out with my friend and we found out there was a concert on the roof. we went up there and one of my bf's friend that I used to like was there. Anyway during the concert someone bumped into him and he feel on me and kissed me, I kissed him back and then stopped and started crying. He said come on you don’t like him he doesn’t treat you right don’t cry, don’t you like me? Which made me cry more and I ran downstairs and then woke up.

This guy is the one I dream of the most and he’s attractive but I love my bf and think he is much more attractive so why am I having these dreams! And do I tell my bf? I really want these dreams to stop I never even think of those guys and I end up dreaming about them! AH! Please help

Dreams are there sometimes to show you a clue to a part of your life. It isn't saying that you want to cheat on him, and that you don't love him; but it could mean that the relationship for one of you ( or both ) isnt as strong as it used to be or could be. Try to do more activities with eachother and try to make the relationship more fun like it was in the beginning. Hopefully that will work.

If it doesn't work, then confront your boyfriend. Don't tell him about the dreams just yet. Simply respond to it as in, do you truely care about me because I really love you and I don't want anything or anyone to ever come between us. And after his response, in a calm and polite manner tell him about your dream.

I hope I helped.

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(Rating: 5) Yea you wont believe this but that dream did mean alot =( Well i did lose him in my dream, and today he broke up with me, thanks for the advice though I apreciate it

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