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My name is Danielle and I love to help people. Ask my anything and I will try my best to answer as accurately as I can with personal advice from my expierince or knowledge.. Good luck and God Bless all!*Keosha*
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My 17 year old daughter quit school, does not have a job--and does NOTHING around the house. She
does have money in savings which she has been blowing like crazy, but that's almost gone now. She lied to me about last night, said she stayed at a friends to babysit younger siblings, and I found out differently. The friends Mom doesn't even care that our daughters weren't there, so she is not much help. I don't know where my daughter is right now. When she comes home, I am going to tell her she cannot stay anywhere from now on. (she did this one other time and was grounded) I am prepared for a big fight from her, and she will probably leave without my permission. I am going to tell her that I will report her as a runaway.
However, then I have no clue what will happen next (if I get the law involved)
She might turn the story on me and say she is abused. (Which of course she is not) but she plays the role of the victim well, and threatened to call CPS another time when I put my foot down.
Her BF is 19 and lives in a bordering state, but is it against the law if he takes her across state lines? She is (17) and other people seem to think that would not be against the law because she is over 16.
So my questions are.
Is a relationship between a 17 yr old and 19 yr old legal?
What happens when a 17 yr old is reported as a run away?
Does CPS automatically believe a teenager who plays the victim?
Well from personal expierence i spent 3 years pulling the same crap as your dauhgter and yes the law was involved because of my own mistakes. It might be a good thing to let the law become involved because she is out of control and needs help. I went to jail quite a few times for 9 months each time and i finally learned my lesson. It depends on what state u live in for the relationship issue. In FLA its 16-24 is legal. So im pretty sure she is legally allowed to date someone 19 if she is 17. When a minor is reported as a runaway the cops will look for her and bring her back home when they find her. If she comes back home before they find her, you must call them and tell them and they have to come to your house and see your daughter face to face to make sure she is really home so they can discontinue the search. And sometimes depending on the case and the minors behavior they will or will not believe a teen to plays a victim. In the end "what ever is in the dark will eventually come to the light" so pray about this and leave it in gods and the cops hands because if she wont listen to you there isnt much that you can do. I really hope I helped!
~Keosha
(Rating: 5) Thanks for the advice :-)