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Hiya, my names Claire. I'm 16 and I live in England. I live with my dad, my older brother and my younger sister. I have a pretty complicated family situation, so although yours may not be the same, I can probably replate to something of the confusion and hurt people with broken families feel.
I'm a Christian, and I guess that is reflected in most of my responses to questions. Compared to some people, I've had a pretty good 16 years of life so far, not huge amounts to complain about. But there have been times when I've really needed to rely on God to pull me through and he's never EVER failed me. I trust his promises completely, and I depend on Christ with all my heart

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I apoligize if this is in the wrong catagory. I was not sure what this would be considered as, but here is my question: I'm 16/f and I am unsure if I should go out with this guy. I am a devoted Christian and I pray for God to help me through a lot of this. But I am still unsure. I always give people a chance, because I believe that you can't really judge someone until you know them. Well when I met this guy he asked me out, but my other friend tells me he does drugs, he smokes, and he has this "bad boy" reputation. He's a really sweet and caring guy. And I kind of like him. But I don't want to end up going the wrong path if I am with him. And he's 16/m. What do you think I should do in this situation?

If you need more information about this situation you can e-mail me at xxmcrfan15xx@yahoo.com. Thank you in advance.

And I am sorry it's a bit long. I tried making it as brief as possible!

Hey,
The first thing to do, which you are already doing, is to pray. You want to do what God wants, so you need to know what God wants, right? So keep asking Him about it, ask what He wants you to do, ask Him to guide you and give you the stregth to do what He asks, even if it's not what you want.
Next, you need to listen to Him. Remember that God speaks your language. If God wants to tell you something, He'll find a way to do it. It's not your responsiblity to try and decode what God may be saying to you, because He will make it clear. But it is your responsibility to listen.
You can do this by reading the bible everyday, and asking older Christian friends if theres good passages that you could read on this subject. Pray through them with God, and ask Him to speak to you throguh His word.
Also, talk to Christian friends who know the situation. God so often talks to us through friends, and if you can pray about it with them, even better. Read books, Joshua Harris is a fantastic author to read. As someone before me mentioned, I Kissed Dating Goodbye is a great book, as is Boy Meets Girl.
So, my advice is to talk and listen to God, in as many different ways as you can, and He'll stick with you.
My personal advice is to think, "is a realtionship with this guy going to be good for my faith?" Your realtionship with God has always got to come first, so if anything is going to hinder that, it's bad news. You have a great attitude in that you want to give people a chance, but it seems to me that with this lad, maybe that chance should be friendship first, until you know he's definately not going to cause you to muck anything up between you and God.
If you want to chat about this anymore, email me clairejones00[at]hotmail.com
(the [at] is just something I do to stop spammers or anything picking up my adress!)
Good luck and God bless
xxx

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