Getting over a relationship is an experience most of us have to go through at some point in life.




Steps:
1. Allow yourself to grieve over the loss. Grieving includes going through feelings such as sadness, anger, shock and acceptance.

2. Take any pressure or expectations off yourself to get over it quickly. Depending on the length of the relationship or how important it was to you, you may need weeks, months or longer to get over it.

3. Take care of yourself. Get adequate rest, eat right and get some exercise.

4. Nurture yourself. Give yourself permission to relax, take it easy, and do whatever makes you feel better - such as taking walks, baths or naps; listening to music; reading; or watching movies.

5. Plan pleasurable activities with friends or family ahead of time (especially on weekends) to keep you busy and get your mind off the loss.

6. Consider joining a support group to be with others dealing with similar feelings. Ask your doctor for a referral.

7. Talk to your doctor about possibly taking medication if you're having trouble sleeping, or if you're experiencing anxiety or depression. Or discuss the options of herbal supplements such as St. John's wort (for depression) or kava kava (for anxiety).

8. Get a journal and write down what you have learned from the relationship about yourself, relationships and life.


Tips:
If the relationship was very significant for you, you may never get over it in the sense of having no residual feelings about it. Over time, the feelings will become less intense and you will be able to think about the relationship without it being so painful.


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Whether you're the one doing the dumping or the one getting dumped, breaking up is always hard to do. Although you might feel as if you'll never get over this, you will.




Steps:
1. Call all of your friends - even the ones you may have ignored during your recent relationship - and make plans immediately. Now is not a good time to be alone.

2. Vent when the need arises. Good friends will let you take out the photo album (again) and cry (again) and rant (again) - and they'll still love you.

3. Allow yourself time to grieve. If you don't let yourself wallow in self-pity for a while and mourn the good times lost, your heart may harden to future relationships and love.

4. Realize that this sadness will pass.

5. Distract yourself with fun once you're tired of mourning. Movies, group sports, classes or a favorite CD can help get your mind off your loss.

6. Indulge yourself when you're feeling lonely. Try a massage, a weekend trip away with a best friend, a great new outfit - whatever helps you feel good about yourself.

7. Begin dating again when you're ready. Have friends set you up, and go to all those parties you might otherwise skip.

8. Analyze what went wrong in the relationship only after you have rebuilt your self-esteem. If you attempt to do this too soon, you're headed for another downward spiral.

9. Remember the good aspects of the relationship (there must have been some), and then get excited about the new direction your life is suddenly taking. Change can be awesome!


Tips:
Keep in mind that clean breaks are generally better than those minibreaks or sort-of breakups that are a bit easier to deal with at the time. Upon breaking up, attempt to resolve lingering issues, then take some time away from each other, even if you intend to remain friends.


Warnings:
Never sleep with an ex unless you like to torture yourself.

While you're upset, don't do anything you'll regret later. The transition back into single life is a highly vulnerable time. Get support from your friends.




Good luck
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