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Q: OK i was friends with this girl for over 11 years. We did everything together.She practically lived with me. We told everybody we were sisters well a few months back we got into it BIG time. And we've tried to be friends but it doesnt work she always goes and starts something new. Well i have alot more friends now and i love my "new" life. But everytime everything starts working out for me she comes back in the picture. She will text me and start bein all nice and i try to be nice back and then a few hours later she tries to start again. I cant get her to leave me alone. I dont want to be her enemy but i also dont want to be friend anymore. I cant take much more of her crap. She always wants to fight and when i actually say ok she goes and calls this other girl and tells her lies and im sick of it. What should i do about her calling and texting me and just bothering me? I really hate 2-faced people and thats what she is.
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Just tell her the truth. Your feelings. That's what I would do.
Tell her why you do not think you can be friends any longer, either in private or on the phone. Be specific. Sometimes, people do hurtful things without knowing how bad they make people feel. People won't always change, but you should at least make it clear what the problem is and give her a chance to fix it (if at all possible).
You can stop talking to her.
Ignore her. Refuse to take her phone calls.
Tell her (in private) that you can't stay friends.
Start an argument - then say you're not friends.
Tips
Know why you don't want her as your friend anymore and think of the effect that it will have on your life.
If all else fails,why not just stay friends?
If the person offers to be friends again, you can accept her offer but don't expect the friendship to change overnight. Hope for the best but expect the worst. Make sure the person understands how she hurt you etc. Assess whether you want to be friends again because you think your life is better with her in it or whether you're just afraid of being alone and friendless.
Some people are not capable of being good friends or sustaining long-term friendships.
Warnings
If you start an argument,don't get in a fight and get in trouble.
Do not emphasize all the good times you had with said friend before terminating the friendship, or else she'll assume that you are trying to be friends again instead of saying goodbye.
About calling and texting? Ignore it. Take this advice if you really don't want to be friends. ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
Good luck, hun.
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Heyyyy, I'm jess. I love to help other people, no matter what. I've been through enough bs to know when to just stop and walk away. I don't judge; feel free to ask me anything. I have quite the temper. But, what makes me a good advice-giver is that for the most part, I'm genuinely empathetic and willing to help.
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I've had a lot of experiences with piercings, bullying, family problems, and even sexual issues (no std's)- but with the emotional part of it. I love music, so I give good, basic advice about that, too. Also, I deal with severe anxiety and depression, and have been in treatment numerous times. On top of that, I have OCD (Obsessive Complulsive Disorder), and because I've been around people addicted to drugs, or cutting, I can help! Just give me the chance.
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Gender: Female AIM: Member Since: August 1, 2005 Answers: 750 Last Update: January 1, 2009 Visitors: 45594
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