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I cant take anymore!!
OK i was friends with this girl for over 11 years. We did everything together.She practically lived with me. We told everybody we were sisters well a few months back we got into it BIG time. And we've tried to be friends but it doesnt work she always goes and starts something new. Well i have alot more friends now and i love my "new" life. But everytime everything starts working out for me she comes back in the picture. She will text me and start bein all nice and i try to be nice back and then a few hours later she tries to start again. I cant get her to leave me alone. I dont want to be her enemy but i also dont want to be friend anymore. I cant take much more of her crap. She always wants to fight and when i actually say ok she goes and calls this other girl and tells her lies and im sick of it. What should i do about her calling and texting me and just bothering me? I really hate 2-faced people and thats what she is.
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ok.. I've been friends with one of my friends for 11 yrs.. so i no the connection you have and not wanting to hurt her and not wanting her to be your enemy.... Just tell her that if she wants to be friends and stay friends that ok... and tell her if shes gonna play games your just not gonna be a part of that.. and Im sorry to say this.. but the way it sounds... it seems she calls you when shes bored or she has nobody to hang out with.. then when people come into the picture she doesn't wanna be around you..
Hope I helped,
Jamie*
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Just tell her the truth. Your feelings. That's what I would do.
Tell her why you do not think you can be friends any longer, either in private or on the phone. Be specific. Sometimes, people do hurtful things without knowing how bad they make people feel. People won't always change, but you should at least make it clear what the problem is and give her a chance to fix it (if at all possible).
You can stop talking to her.
Ignore her. Refuse to take her phone calls.
Tell her (in private) that you can't stay friends.
Start an argument - then say you're not friends.
Tips
Know why you don't want her as your friend anymore and think of the effect that it will have on your life.
If all else fails,why not just stay friends?
If the person offers to be friends again, you can accept her offer but don't expect the friendship to change overnight. Hope for the best but expect the worst. Make sure the person understands how she hurt you etc. Assess whether you want to be friends again because you think your life is better with her in it or whether you're just afraid of being alone and friendless.
Some people are not capable of being good friends or sustaining long-term friendships.
Warnings
If you start an argument,don't get in a fight and get in trouble.
Do not emphasize all the good times you had with said friend before terminating the friendship, or else she'll assume that you are trying to be friends again instead of saying goodbye.
About calling and texting? Ignore it. Take this advice if you really don't want to be friends. ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
Good luck, hun.
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