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I know that my best friend likes guys but sometimes I feel as if she acts like she’s a lesbian to me. Sometimes when I’m over her house and I’m lying on her bed reading a magazine or something she just jump on me, completely covering me with her body and it sort of scares me. She does when she’s usually excited about something and acts like its something normal. Once we were dared to make out with each other and I was a little hesitant out to do it (since I'm strait) but she wasn’t. But when she got dared to kiss a younger guy, she wouldn’t do it because she felt that it was weird. I find that strange that she would make out with me but not a guy (only one year younger) than her. Then again, she does point out which guys she thinks are hot. idk, my gut feeling is that maybe she’s a bit bi sexual, what’s your take on it?

My take is that you can't really tell these things. Sometimes people touch each other and it doesn't mean anything sexual, it's just something they do because they are close friends. Perhaps in your friend's family, people hug each other more than in yours, and that's why she sees it as normal. However, she is probably beginning to question her sexuality. I'm not sure how old you are, but you seem like a teenager and this behavior is pretty common in the teen years. This is sort of an experimental age for people, and your friend could be thinking that she wants to test herself, to see if she is gay or straight or whatever. She's probably experimenting with you because you are best friends and she trusts you. Personally, I would see nothing wrong with it but if you think that she is invading your boundaries you should talk to her about it. You should support her through anything she's going through. I know from experience that's it's really difficult and she could definitely use the support of her best friend. In some cases I would say to let her bring it up, but in your case I think you need to confront her. Make sure when you do it doesn't sound accusing--don't say, "Are you bi? Because you touch me a lot." Maybe you could start with, "You know that I would be your best friend no matter what, right? So if anything is bothering you, you can tell me." Listen to what she has to say, and afterwards explain that you're not comfortable with some of her behavior. She may not come right out and tell you anything--give her time.

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(Rating: 5) Ive never really unstood gays/lesbians or what they go through trying to understand their sexuality, thanks :]

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