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Female, 21
I was recently dating a guy I thought I really clicked with. He talked about our future on several occasions, and he really seemed to be interested in me (like I said, we clicked, and not just on my end). He recieved a promotion that requires him to take frequent business trips, though, and he says he can't start a new relationship right now, especially since there might be fights about it and he might ruin what might be in the future. To his credit, I did contact him with concern even when he told me he wouldn't be able to talk (I know for a fact he was quite busy). He also said he didn't want to deprive me of someone who could put in enough time to be a real boyfriend. He also said he's not going anywhere and has kept me posted on major events in his life. So, is he to be believed? Should I get over him? Should I date around and wait (he said it will be super busy for about 7 months)? Should I just wait? I really feel like this is the guy for me, and I'm trying to keep the faith, but I feel obsessive for believing what may be a line. Help?
Hmm..I don't know if my answer will be the best, but I don't like to reject Inbox questions, so I'll attempt to give you an answer.
He sounds like he really wants to keep hold of you - but 7 months is a long time to be away from each other, definently enough time for you and him to become interested in someone else.
I don't suggest "dating around" in the sense of LOOKING for people to date, because it sounds like this relationship could turn out. But if you find someone that you really want to start a relationship with before the other guy comes back, I say go for it. You can't spend your life waiting for something that isn't certain.
On the same note, if you keep a really close relationship, even if its over the phone with the other guy and feel that you guys have kept in contact enough by the time he keeps back, only give this first one up if you find someone that you are just truely head over heels with.
Hope that helps you some.
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