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Hello there,
I'd like to thank whoever is gonna give me advice in advance.
Anyway, I've always had this problem:
I'm the president of the Student Council, and honestly I expected people, including my friends, to be happy for me.
However, two of my friends ( a boy and a girl), who are also on the Student council, started rumors about me being a show off and reminding the teachers about the homework, eventhough it's not true.
The boy's girlfriend is on the Student Council too, and I wanted to ask for her opinion about something. And as soon as I even opened my mouth, he cut me off! And stupid me didn't say anything! Not "Please man, I'm talking to her", nothing!
And on the same day, we had a "crazy dress up" competition and the Student Council members had to judge.
I was dressed as a gypsy, and was wearing a red shirt, red bandana, and red sandals. So from the beginning of the day, he keeps trying to provoke me: "Is it Valentine's day today or what?"
All I said was "What do you have against me?" and I walked away from him.
And in front of everyone, EVERYONE, he practically yells at me saying: "This crazy dress up must've been your idea!"
I just stared at him and walked away again.
And guess what? The crazy dress up day wasn't my idea! It was the other girl's idea and he would've known if he was even paying attention in the meetings! And guess what else? I didn't say that to him!
So my question is: How can I show this guy, whom I've known for almost 5 years, that he's being immature and is disrespecting me and hurting my feelings? :(
And how can I tell the other girl that I know what she's been saying about me? (link)
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DO NOT BEAT THEM UP as skater suggested. Bad, bad, bad. You get caught / turned in, and you're out of the school for a while. Suspended or even expelled. No. No fighting.
Outside of school, in a relaxed, private situation, pull the girl aside and ask her why there are rumors going around about you. Ask her why the boy is being so rude. (Don't say anything that would be considered offensive or harsh. Don't call anyone names. Then they'll just be pissed off at you.) Ask her if it was his idea to spread rumors and if they're jealous. Ask if you hurt her feelings.
As for the guy, ask him to meet you somewhere. Somewhere that there will not be a lot of people to overhear, but so you're not totally alone. Tell him gently that he hurt your feelings. Let him know, kindly, that you feel disrespected and you're afraid that you're going to lose his friendship.
It'll be hard - VERY hard - to be kind and gentle when dealing with these people, but remember to keep your voice down and your head calm. If you're hotheaded about it, they'll come back with three times the hotheadedness. But if you're gentle and cool, there's more of a chance they'll listen to you because you are non threatening.
-FunnyCide
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lol, course i wont hit anyone; i wont even hurt a fly ;).
The only thing i can do is talk to the guy. cant say anything to the girl cause she hasnt said bugged me.
And yes, it is very hard to keep my cool. However, as a leader, I must take courses in that,lol.
thanks for the advice.
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