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Ever since my bf moved to another state for a job I feel as though a weight has been lifted. I think he was upset with me because the last time we talked over the phone before he moved I sounded so happy. Part of the reason for my happiness is that I had just started a new job with a really cool company after years of unemployment and dissatisfaction. Well my self esteem and confidence has totally gone up and when I told my bf how happy I was with things he didnt sound happy at all for me. I also think he was mad at me because he said he was thinking of stopping into the store before he left but I didnt sound to thrilled to see him. Well it's been a month since we've talked or emailed and you know what, I don't even miss him!!
My question is : Why do you think he was mad that I sounded so happy? Wouldnt he want me to be happy? And also I feel a little guilty for being glad that he is gone.
Does anyone have any insight?
Well by being happy now and you feeling a weight has been lifted -- that obviously shows that you two were not meant to be and your life is much better without him. I would break it off with him if you don't even miss him and stuff. Just maybe remain friends. But see, he thinks that since he's your boyfriend and he moved.. you should be like, in TEARS and SOOO miserable without him and everything, like most girlfriends probably would. I mean I'm sure he wants you to be happy, but he probably just wanted you to be at least a little depressed that he moved, you know? Wouldn't you want him to be sad if you moved? Think of it from his shoes. Cause then also by telling him your happy, it sounds like you're telling him," Yeah now that you're gone, I'm so much happier" and that's going to depress him. And it's alright to feel a little guilty, but you shouldn't feel really really guilty. I think you should just end it with him and move on. I hope I helped.
Love,
MELii
(Rating: 5) Thanks!! Yeah, he was probably expecting me to be crying and really upset but I was just bubbling that last time I talked to him. I'm glad actually because he is such an egomaniac and thinks everthing is about HIM. I don't need him and I am better off. Great advice!