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15/f- Its really long but if you would take the time, I would really really appreciate your help.
Okay I have 2 best friends, shelby and christa. Well shelby recently got a boyfriend, and all of a sudden started acting very distant to me and christa. She never hung out with us anymore, and barely talked to us at school. She was trying to change herself to fit in with her bf's friends. Well Then she started telling people that me and christa abandoned her and that we were mad and jealous that she has a bf. We never said anything to her. So then we heard it from more people, so we asked her about it, if she said it. She denied it, and got mad at us and walked away. We let it go. Then my friend found a note from her to her bf that said " I dont know what is up with HER (meaning me) lately. If she doesnt knock it off quick, Im not gonna talk to her at all at homecoming because I dont want my night to be ruined by HER". So then I called her and asked her about it. Now Im not a mean person at all. Im too nice at times. Well I must have said "Now Im not trying to attack you or be mean, I just wanna talk" fifteen times, and she was like "Oh I know" She made up some lame excuse, and I was like whatever, so then we talked for about an hour like normal about our day and whatnot. The next morning she came up to Christa and I and hugged us to make sure we were okay. Well afterschool a friend came up and said "shelby said you called her and yelled and bitched her out for an hour and then she cried after you got off the phone" I was so angry, and I was tempted just to not talk to her anymore, but I gave it one more chance. I went up to her before lunch at her locker and asked her why she was saying that, and that she knew very well it wasnt true. I was being wayy too nice. She wouldnt look at me, she kept her eyes on her locker and was like "yeah... whatever.. sure" while I was talking, so then she was like "IM DONE okay? IM DONE WITH YOU" and just kept saying it, and I walked off, and then she went and told her bf that it was the otherway around. So then she comes up to me like 1 or 2 days later and says I was being a bitch the otherday, I dont know what was up. Blah. And I just said yeah I agree and walked away, then she wrote me a 3 page note and the first page was an apology finally. Im the forgive and forget type, but I dont really wanna forgive exactly, but she sits at our lunch table now, but everyone is like "why are you talking to her, she doesnt deserve your time"
Should I forgive her after all she did?
Am I right about this whole thing?
Should I talk to her still?
What should I do?
I would greatly appreciate any help anyone can give
Hmm... I don't know if you should forgive her. If it was me, I don't think I would cause she's not being a good friend AT ALL. I mean even if you were to forgive you, she's just gonna talk about you behind your back AGAIN and you'll just keep repeating this with her over and over. =/ You gotta think about this. Do you really really really wanna be her friend again? If you do, then you should maybe try again. Give it another shot. Hmm you gotta see where all these rumors are happening from. Are you sure they're from her? Because sometimes people just like to start stuff for their own sick twisted pleasure. =/ But in my opinion, I wouldn't be her friend again. I mean like i said before, she's just gonna say stuff again ( if she's the one saying it ). This has happened with me. My best friend started talking about me and I made up with her because I mean.. she was my best friend. And then she STILL did and I was like," psh, forget this I don't need friends who are gonna talk about me behind my back all the time." And I just stopped talking to her the next day, and she got the hint. I hope I helped! if you need more help, just please IM me at MELii x MARiiE . =]
Love,
MELii
p.s. Sorry if i was repeative and didn't make sense. I tend to do that whenever I'm writing alot and I loose train of thought, lol.
(Rating: 5) nope, you made sense, and you had the same opinion I did and it helped a lot.. so thanks!