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Two questions about pre-marriagal sex... first one, am I spelling it right? I just like to know how to spell things, sorry to waste your time. Second one, before Advicenators, I was always under the impression that pre-marriagal sex was just for the screwed-in-the-head potheads and the sluts/whores. But now I'm looking at these questions, and seriously folks, it's just insane how many people are saying "I've been with my b/f three months and we had sex last night, is that too little time?" or something like that. Are my thoughts on pre-marriagal sex wrong? Note: Smartasses get 1s and will be reported. Give me real advice. (link)
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It is spelled "premarital." :)
According to my faith (and many different religions), practicing premarital sex is a sin. Yes, I believe that having premarital sex is wrong. There are some non-religious folks out there who just think it's more special to wait; and the risks are not worth it. Because of all the risks (unwanted pregnancy, STDS, HIV, AIDS...), many people do not partake in premarital sex, no matter if they're "religious" or not.
Many teenagers (and even young adults) feel pressured to have sex, that they will not be accepted or they won't be as "cool" if they don't have sex with their boyfriend / girlfriend. Some teens think their boyfriend / girlfriend will dump them if they don't have sex. All too often, having sex with your boyfriend / girlfriend leads to a breakup. TV, radio, tabloids etc. sell sex. Just go to a book shop and glance at the magazines. Most of the ones that are for teenagers / young adults (specifically women) have something about "look sexy this fall..." or "50 ways to be a better girlfriend..." or "Have a tight, sexy stomach in 15 days..." -- you get the idea. Everything sells sex. Yes, there ARE teen magazines that DO NOT have any sexual content. Look around you though, so many peers are telling teens to have sex, have sex, have sex. It's the "cool" thing to do, it will make people like you more, etc., etc. That - in my opinion - is totally crazy! Because everyone thinks it's so "cool" to have premarital sex, we have hundreds of STDs. You have to ask yourself, do the pros outweigh the cons?
Sex is primarilly an act of reproduction or a form of love. We'll take the reproduction aspect first : how many teens are WANTING to get pregnant (thus reproducing) when they have sex with their girlfriend / boyfriend? Probably not very many. Especially the younger ones, or the ones who haven't been dating their boyfriend / girlfriend long. Not many teenagers want to have sex to have a baby. They don't want the responsibility, they can't support a child etc. That's not their motive.
Love : Yes, teenagers CAN love each other. I know, I love my boyfriend. Will I sleep with him? No! A thousand times NO! Do I love him? Yes, very much - but that does NOT mean I'm going to sleep with him. I know that some teenagers honestly DO love each other and that is why they want to have sex with one another. Though, you have to ask yourself, if they love one another so much, why don't they wait until they're old enough to get married, and then they can have sex without worrying about an bad pregnancy or STDs. Too often though, the thing teenagers claim for "love" is just an emotional high. They love each other's BODY. Having sex to them is just a way to get their jollies or whatnot. Much too often, these relationships don't last long. The girl gets pregnant, the guy splits. Hey, he can't afford a baby, right?
You make the call. I think that sex is the perfect wedding gift. The ultimate wedding gift to your spouse : your virginity. Not everyone feels the same way as I do; I respect that. It is their choice, their call - as it is yours. You make the decision. You know where I stand. :)
-FunnyCide
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Holy crap, that was in-depth! And yeah, I agree on the love issue! I'm 13 and I'm positive I'm in love! FAVORITE COLUMNIST'd!
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