I have a friend who I like very much, but who has a habbit of asking me to call her because she's feeling low at really incovenient times. I want to be there for her, but it becomes problematic when I feel I can't fairly say no when she asks me to call for a few minutes because she's feeling low, even it's like 1am. If it really was a few minutes, it would be fine, but once she has me on the phone she's impossible to let go, because every time I talk about having to be up in the morning she talks about how people always seem to let her down when she needs them. I do want to be there for her, but I do need to sleep too, and I simply can't survive on talking till 2am or later every night to get up at 7am. How can I be firm about needing to get off the phone without offending her?
Just tell her what you told me, because you need to let her know that you can't do that, and you really want to be there for her. If she doesnt understand shes not worth having around... and she might also being looking for attention. I dunno. Good luck and best wishes
-holly-
hope i helped
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