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Hey everyone! My name is Jessi and I'm 15/f/IL. I've always been excellent at giving advice...or so I've been told by my friends. So you can ask me anything and everything...although I have a rather special talent for makeup emergencies (considering my mom sells it) and for dealing with affairs of the heart. (Some of my friends automatically come to me for boy problems.)
And, without further ado...my advice column!

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im 18 and my sister is 24. me and my sister dont get along much. once in awhile, were fine, but other than that, shes always screaming at me. a lot of my friends dont like her, nor does my guy. as the years gone by, ive learned to adapt to the way she treats me, but lately, it has gotten too out of hand and it makes me cry a lot. i told her plenty of times before that she hurts my feelings and shed apologize, but the next day, she still treats me like shit. i know that sisters are supposed to be there for each other through thick and thin, but its more like i have her back and she just brings me down, because basically, she does. she makes my parents go against me, which causes me more pain. what should i do? ive tried talking to her numerous times, but that doesnt ever seem to work? help.. because its literally killing me inside..

I know exactly what you mean. I have two older sisters, and sometimes I think that they just plain don't like me or want me around. But then there are little things they do that make me feel like, even if they don't show it, they love me.

You talk about how your sister treats you so horrible all the time. Aren't there SOME times that she has also done something nice for you? It may be hard to see at first, but try to think of just some little things that she has done. There are some. There are always some.

And I think I'd have to know what you mean by treating you like "shit." I think my older sisters do too, but my mom explained it as being a big sister thing. They want to boss me around because they feel they have to protect me. It doesn't make a whole lot of sense until after you've thought about it for a while.

You should just tell your sister that being around her makes you feel really sad and you are in pain from how she treats you. Tell her you love her so much, but you feel somtimes like maybe she doesn't love you back. Add how much you want to be friends with her, and that maybe you both should make a pact not to fight with each other. And if one of you starts to get snappy, the other one just leaves the room for a minute so you both can get yourselves under control.

Good luck!

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