thank you so much, I really appreciate all of your help. I went to church and started doing missionary work like feeding the homeless and all of the haunting experiences stopped.

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excellent answer it was just what i was looking for thanks so much :D .D

Alright but I definitely said it's not dating. I'm not looking for a relationship. It was ONLY to meet CHRISTIANS in my area that's all. And I already have met people out in the "real world" and I don't live on the computer or antyhing. Thanks for the input though anyway, it's still feedback which is what I asked for. And I do agree he could turn out crazy...

thanx for the insight , we aren't married yet because we were going thru a lot of problems and also he is muslim and I am catholic, I'm not very religious but he just wants everything his way. he wants me to convert to islam which I would think about doing maybe but I'm not sure I should marry him just yet. although my son is my life so I think I will probably do everything to give him a good family and home...

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thanks

Hmm. Not what I had in mind.

"stop feeling guilty over everthing and everyone that you could not save! You are not God, and life is hard enough without crucifying yourself with those expectations." This statement absolutely offended me because I am a christian and I don't think that statement was necessary and a little over the top. I already know my potential, my goals, and i am married so I don't really think he is childs play. You need to really think before you write because it is very offensive on my part.

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thanks but you didnt at all answer my question...

My family is 'spiritually strong', meaning that were close to God; not brainwashed bible huggers. I think your perceptions on my question is off or just not what I meant. You make the problem seem exaggerated. Buut, nonetheless, you helped A LOT. Thankyouu[:

ahaha you really fooled me with the first part :) thankk youu !

Thanks

thank you

True

Thank you :)

Yeah i know him, we had class together for a while, but now that we are in a different rotation i dont see him as often just in the halls but Thank you so much for the advice

i think you'd make a great counselor. you really sound like you know what you're talking about.

thanks i appreciate your thought a lot ! and you're right my dad is smart he may know what is going on and because i know how much he loves her may be pretending to not know , but i just don't think thats fair for him. he's such a great man and even though she's my mother is not fair at all for her to be doing something like that to someone like my dad. but thankks i really appreciate and will def take into thought your advice! -LL<3

Very good idea! Thank you.

I am in a way very set on marrying in my 20s, partly for security. I have a very unstable and generally unsupportive family of origin, and, thus, have been in most ways on my own for quite while. I like the idea of having a partner, and marriage is a large part of the future I want for myself. So a lot of this was spot on, thanks!

thanks .. you are right i am a little scared to talk to my moteher on a friendly level..

Thank you so much, it really woke me up. I'll check out that book too..

That you very much. That was some awesome advice. I am going to review that.

Thank you

thank you:)

thanks!! this was a good perspective to put it all in!

thx

thanks :)

As I mentioned, I babysitt downstairs while everyone else is upstairs. So...technically in that case I am a mother's helper. Their should be no legal complications or problems. If anything were to happen, and a child was hurt, then the person who's house I was at would be responsible. Thanks for answering. =)

This is the piece of advice that best worked for me

thank you! i am pretty thin already so i never really thought i needed exercise but it really did make a differance. thanks again!

but how do i get out of the mess? >.<"

oh my gosh. dude that is awsome advice. wow. thank you so much , you dont know how much this helped. thank you! i hope you dont mind if i come to you for suggestions. maybe i can keep you updated? i dont know, but i might need advice like this again. THANK YOU SO MUCH.

Thanks, actually I have since then stopped using tampons all together, and have started using pads the whole time

straight forward and to the point... i wish i could give you a rating of 10. thanks

Thanks. Really helpful. Very in depth- I really appreciate it.

Thanks. :)

Thaks..but I don't think leaving him would be the best solution to my problem.

your advice about a mind block could be the problem, but he is not young he is 47. he says it happens with everyone could there be some kind of sex toy I could use?

thanks =]

thanks : )

you didn't answer my question. i just wanted verses.

thanks.. you gave really great advice..but im not that young. im 21..and i do love him, and the marriage was not out of force. i think this is mostly emotional too... mostly fear. hopefully everything will work out

Thanks for the advice, that would be gross :/

Thank u. The website helped alot. :)

Thank you for the advice. My boyfriend and I have been together for a long time but have known each other a lot longer. We were both tested for all sorts before sleeping together.. so we are safe in that respect! Thank you again for the advice :) much appreciated!

thanks, ive often thought that myself, i guess i was right

ummmmmmmm ok, thats a lil over top

hey thanks, i couldnt go yea that sucks! but thanks

THANK YOU SO MMUCH!

Thank you that really makes me feel so much better :) The wedding has been off for 3 days.

Very well-thought out piece of advice; thank you!

Aww, thanks! I'll try - but it really is easier said than done! haha =) I hope you live you life that way too!

Thank you!

Definately the best answer yet. Your answer actually put things into perspective. Thank you so much.

great advice. Thanks

You're so right. I have a bisexual friend whose father is a liberal, all for gay rights and everything, but he was never able to forgive his son for being bi and accept it as something normal.

uhh thanks. How do you know how old I am? And my mother came with me to get it done. I do not beleive in lying to my mother espeacially about somthing like this. And yes i followed all of the instuctions but she did not give me any soap.

thanks!

Thank you! I definitely believe in being intellectual about it. If you have time, I'd really like to hear your perspective on this (related) question I posted a few months back: http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=474797

thanks!

thanks but i don't want vids

Thanks. Haha, and trust me, no guys like me unless you count some oldish drug dealers.

Thank you- you are absolutely right. I do realize that the shopping itself is not the issue. My mom works very hard, and as much as it hurts me to say this, she is weak inside and tries to buy her way to happiness and satisfaction (of course, things don't work that way). Shopping addiction is not scrutinized enough in our society- I think that's where the problem lies.

thank you =] and everything worked out<3

Unfortunately I found out yesterday that he was cheating, he ended up texting me and saying that his girlfriend found out about me & him and that it's over [between me&him]. Him & his girlfriend were together for four years. I don't care anymore.

I never knew that, uh very entresting. Thax you thats really good advice.

to answer your questions..i dont want to be his girlfreind but i've grown to care about him thats how i am. and yes i know im worth a better boyfriend...i dont even really want one but we havent been going out that long 1 month and a couple of days soo i guess maybe i should break up with him...but then again he really needs someone to be there for him hes going through alot.....thanx for the advice

thx so much darling!

thank you SO much, your advice REALLY helped me!!!!

can u use smaller words plz im lost lol

thanks for the advice, i really apreciate it. i will probably do that. thankss

thank you so much for everything. you are an amazing person and i really appreciate everything that you have done for me. i am really trying not to worry as much and just go with the flow. life isnt worth being wasted on this kind of thing. thank you again so much. you have made a difference in my life, you really have. SAM

Thanks so much for your thoughts. Your advice really hit home. I'll try to work on my anger before he goes.

thank you yet again

again thanx

thank you

thanx ur probably rite

Thank you! I know what your saying, and i'll think thoroughly, you were a big help and opened my mind, thanks!

thanks for the help

actually im 16 and i dont think you have any right to decide when i should be sexually active unless i ask for that. you didn't answer my question and you're lucky i gave you a 3. i've given a hand job before i just didn't know if there was any way to make it better, that was my question.

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Thank you very much for your advice and feedback

aww thank you! =]

thanks babes<3

Thanks. I'm not completely sure you understand perfectionism, but I appreciate your advice anyways!

thanks!

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i am attracted to him but im not sure why. and thanx for the advice, it helps.. XO~Michelle~OX

tyvm

thanx you really helped alot i feel the same way im also older than he is and i really just want to take it slow because i dont think theres anything yet or ever thanx great advice

i didn't ask for a lecture

your right. I'm sorry.

thanks, i'll try getting her help.

Thanks, yeah it was more of a spur-of-the-moment thing; I had no intention of trouble until I realized what had happened. Things have worked out though, thanks so much for your advice!

thank u

Thanks so much.. I appreciate it. U helped u kno.

Thanks so much<333333 i think i need to chill for a few days and work everything out, then try some different strategies like talking to my grandma and such<3 but thanks so much, it really helped<333

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