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As John Lennon once said, "Life is what happens while you're busy making other plans." So true.



Giving advice is sort of second nature to me. I use to have a column on here but ended up deleting it. Now once again I have decided to give advice again. I value people and their problems and try to help them the best I can.



No question is a silly question. Every question has importance. I sometimes feel like some of my questions I want to ask are viewed as pointless but have comed to realize that this isn't entirely true.



My biggest pet peeves are bad spelling, grammar and punctuation. It's silly, but I mean it's not that difficult to tell the difference between you're and your. Or even their, they're and there. No offense if you do any of this, but we learned all of these when we were younger in 5th grade (give or take).



Personally one of my favorite quote is by Eleanor Roosevelt. "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."
If only people would truly realize this, the world would be so much happier.

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I always ache the day after jogging.
What am I doing wrong? I am new at
this by the way.

Like someone said, it's normal. Your body is getting use to the physical movement of jogging. In a few days it'll be better and your body will ache a lot less. Just check to make sure your form is correct, that might be it depending on how you jog.


Good luck and hope this helps.



Response to the feedback comment:
Look at the word form in the sentence and the content of the sentence. Depending on how you jog shows that form relates to the way you jog. Maybe you didn't understand that. But anyway, form means the way you run. An example, the way she runs or her form can cause her an injury. I thought you would have understood what I meant since everyone I know knows what the word form means when related to jogging/running. No offense of course.

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okay so i need a makeover a new look. everything from hair, makeup to clothes any suggestions? well see my hair is a few inches bellow my shoulders and i want it to be longer. and my eyebrows ar really bushy and my mom won't let me do anything to them. and where should i shop at?

wwww.myspace.com/omfg_its_nikita

look at my pictures and ive me suggestions based on that please.

Try trimming your hair a little to let it grow out. It'll take split ends out allowing it to grow out more. My hair is like yours and I'm trying to grow it out, so that's what I do.

Make up is such a huge thing. Try going to MAC, or even Sephora if your budget allows. getting neutral colors like taupes and browns, or even pinks since it's summer. For both mascara and eyeliner don't get jet black, it's alright but try something new like a brown color. For lips I love MAC lipglosses and Stila, but Burt's Bee has great products that you can use, and contain SPF which is an added bonus.

Waxing eyebrows is overrated half the time. Some what bushy eyebrows are in. Very Brooke Shields. Try maybe getting a tweezer like Tweezerman that is slanted and watch how you tweeze your eyebrows. There's a book on make up for teens by Bobbi Brown which gives advice on both make up and I believe eye brows, so try getting that book it's totally worth it.

But your best bet is to shop at Sephora, MAC, and even CVS or a Walgreen's type store for everything from make up to tweezer and hair products. Get your hair done by a stylist and tell her you want to grow it out and to get rid of the split ends.

For clothing I'm in a normal outfit type mode. It's weird I love just wearing a great top and jeans and just a great bag to go with it. I know that's totally not going to help but just try pairing plain tees and even great tops with details with a bunch of accesories from jewelry like necklaces, bracelets, earrings to belts, bags, sunglasses and shoes/sandals/flip flops.


Hope this helps and good luck.

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i want to be really skinny, and nothing will work! so i decided to be anorexic, how do i become anorexic? like, how do i start, i know that ussually it an illness but it just seems easey! please help! :D

It's not worth becoming anorexic. Lose weight the right way with a healthy diet and exercise. You'll lose weight with that alone. And don't overdo the diet and exercise because it can become a borderline eating disorder with the diet and what they call exercise bulimia.

Honestly, there's no point in becoming anorexic. It'll get to the point where you faint and get sent to the hospital, or end up going to the hospital in general. And when anorexics go to a hospital they gain the weight back anyway from the starvation they've been doing to their bodies.

People need to stop being delusional thinking anorexia and bulimia are both going to help you lose weight. Haven't you read any magazines that show what it ends up doing to you? Seriously just lose weight the proper way.

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Last Friday I was having dinner, and I bit down on my tongue really hard. It hurt really badly at first, and I thought it would just go away like every other time i've accidentally bit my tongue. I woke up the next day, and the tip of my tongue was red, sore, and there was a little piece that had eroded, i guess, from the rest of my tongue. It's like my tongue has this awkward bump on the tip, and it really hurts. It's been a few days now, and it's still there, it still hurts, and when i eat something sweet it stings.

I'm not sure if you can bruise your tongue, but if i haven't, what could I have done? It really hurts and I want it to go away. Would putting that numbing medicine for kankersores on it be a bad idea?

Aw I'm sorry, I've done that a million times and I know it's painful. You probably just bruised it. Try taking pain medication like Advil it'll help the pain subside. Medicine for kankersores definitely a bad, bad idea. Just see if the swelling reduces in a few days and take Advil for the pain. If it doesn't try going to the ER, or a doctor.

I hope this helps, and good luck.

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Alright, so I have two friends, F and K. K is one of my best friends, F isn't, but we are pretty close and I can trust him. K and F went out and then broke up. Since K is my best friend I would listen to her say that F is over protective and all this stuff and I went on thinking F was the bad guy. Then K started to be extremely mean to F, like pushing him away from a hug and what not, when F was only trying to be nice. K isn't mad that they broke up, but F wants her back real bad. He has been trying so hard to change and he really likes her. K is leading him on and then blowing him off a lot.

I don't know what to do, F always asks for help. I tell him he really needs to get over her and to just not talk to her for a while. But then K tells him he's being immature about it and comes and talks to me about what a loser he is. I'm getting sick of this.


I really need to do something about this. I hate being in the middle.

Being in the middle totally stinks. I hate that situation. It's best if you talk to both of them about the problem civilly. Tell K that what she is doing to F doesn't really seem fair to you, and he's honestly not that bad. Tell F that K isn't worth having feelings over if he's going to still end up getting hurt.

Honesty here would be the best for both of them. It's totally not fair to you to be stuck in the middle since you can sympathize with both of them. Eventually everything will resolve, so there's hope, but just talk to both of them and be equally blunt with both of them stating how you feel.

Good luck with everything and I hope it all works out well.

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Why would a guy flirt with you outragiously, show an interest in you, go out of his way just to talk to you if he's in another relationship?
This guy from work had been showing an interest in me since before Xmas. I always caught him staring at me, he'd smile when I entered the room, he'd rub my shoulder, joke around with me, and even my supervisor thought he liked me because he'd smile if she said I was working that night. Well anyways I thought he was single so I started flirting back. He got all freaked out for a while, and never asked me out. Well I found out he IS seeing someone. I think it's pretty serious too because I heard they are going on a holiday. My question is WHY on earth would he be flirting with me and showing such a huge interest if he ia in another relationship? The only thing I could think of is that he is not that into her, but still I think it's wrong of him to do this.

Boys will be boys. I'm assuming from what you wrote, that he is totally in to you, since he keeps flirting. It's such a taboo when guys act like that and are in relationships. My guess if that his relationship with her cannot be that strong if he's flirting with you. Maybe they're on the road to break up, but since you said they're going away together they might not be. I've seen guys who are in relationships flirt with other girls all the time. It's probably a boost for their ego too.

Anyways, good luck with your situation.

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i hate my stepmom. i kno hate is a strong word and well, my feelings are strong. she is sooo mean to me!! she doesnt like abuse me but the things she says really hurt. she always calls me fat (im 14 5'2 and 97 lbs.) and maybe thats fat but i dont think she needs to remind me of it every single day. i cant have friends over because she is sooo rude to everyone. i cant talk to my dad about it because he doesnt want to deal with it and i cant talk to her because she doesnt care. how can i ignore it? and pleaseeee dont say to talk to my dad. i really dont know what to do anymore.

thanks

First off, I totally know how it feels. I had that at one point in my life. And I know it's extremely tough on you. For me the situation got resolved because my dad divored her, so that's a possibility at one point down the road.

For now though ignore her. She's trying to break you down by mentally abusing you not physically, which is just as bad. Try ignoring her comments, she'll probably pry a response out of you but stay strong. At one point, hopefully, she'll realize how petty she's being and might come around and stop.

If your dad doesn't want to deal with it than it seems like there might be trouble in paradise, or he's just going to brush it off, but at one point later one try speaking to him about your feelings and how you're trying to cope with what she's saying to you, so he'll understand your position. But I mean talk to him down the road.


For now rely on friends and talk to them about your situation if you can, and if you can't which I understand write down your feelings in a journal or book. It'll be a lifesaver since you won't store up all your hurt in you and you'll be able to express how you feel.

Stay strong, you'll be able to, and don't listen to what she says. Good luck too.

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Recently my feet has been very sweaty like water since im so nervous about ym grad tommorrow and my heels are higher then 3 and a half inches.

I jsut learned how to walk in them and im so scared i'll fall down the stairs or something since i fell down once during rehersal

what can i do?

First, congrats on graduation. Secondly, if you can try getting pads that they have for high heeled shoes in many drug stores (CVS, Walgreens, etc etc.) I have that problem a lot with all the sweet 16's and stuff I'm going to this year. The pads are like gels which are supportive for your feet and help with the sweating. That should probably help the sweating, and an added bonus of helping you keep your balance. Good luck and congrats again!

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