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Q: okay so here is my story. my parents had me before they got married..but they got separated before that so i guess im technically a love child-but anyways thats not the point.

what my question is, is who should i live with as i go into my first year of high school???

let me give you a bit of an updated backround before you answer this not-easy question...

~dads house~ dad, stepmom, and stepbrother (17)

PROS: no crying babies, more alone time, more time with me/my dad, more attention(more like atleast some attention), good healthy food, spending money, dad usually takes me places on the weekends
CONS: i dont get to see my sisters grow up, i probably break the small contact that ive had with my mom to almost zero and i may be homesick because ive always lived with her since the separation, dad will be popping any zits he sees on me (ouch!), my stepmom has these 'moments' when she gets really pissed off and doesnt talk to anybody and she slams doors and all that crap to let everyone know shes mad**that lasts for days**and it is unbearable!!, and i hate my room (but i understand that can be changed)

~moms house~ mom, stepdad, half sister (5), half baby sister (14 m)

PROS: i have friends here that i get to hang out with, i get to go to the bball court and 7/11 and Osco with a friend(walking distance), i looove my room, school has been good(friends, no enemies, good teachers, good year)*so i am in hope that the next will be just as much fun*
CONS: my mom and i have little contact(i always feel like im bothering her), i cant stand my sisters(their parents didnt raise them the right way)+ i have no say..i am yelled at for yelling at them when theyre bad*mainly the 4 yearold*, i have no say in anything, i only get to see my dad on the weekends, my mom is too overprotective of me, were moving after 8th grade(and not sure if im going to my designated high school)*that means new friends and new neighborhood*(ive moved alllot), not so good food(so i go to fastfood places and eat junk-not good), and no spending money + i havent been shopping in like 3-4 months, no one takes me anywhere..i always have to ask for a friends ride

alright well even though there may be a bit of a lopsided diference..some 2 things combined equal to one thing on another list (and they are both equally bad)..so if you can help me decide before i finish 8th grade..that would be great. and please explain..dont make it a MOM or DAD answer....thx soo much. ill rate high!!

well, you should decide. but since you asked ... i say dad's. you can still all your mom, and set up times to talk to her, same with friends, your dads house just sounds -- better.

Q: Anyone know any good slow songs that you can just sit back to and cry? Thanks!

switchfoot -- let that be enough.
go listen.

Q: When I rate people, I generally give all 5s, maybe a 4 or 2, and a 1 if someone is completely rude or didnt answer the question. Well..Let's say I ask a question and I get 5 answers. One of them is horrible, so it gets a 1 rating. The second is okay but kinda bad, so a 3 or 4. The next 2 answered the question and werent jerks, but the 5th wrote a 5 paragraph answer and included links to websites and personal experiences, etc. Should I rate the the 3rd and 4th people 5's like the 5th person, or should I give them fours because there was a better answer?

NOTE--Im rating all fives on this question no matter what

i say give the two average ones 4's, the bad one a 2, and the really good one a five. people know if they give suckish advice, so theyre really just setting themselves up for that 2. and the two 4's, well, im always perfetly happy to get a four. :)

Q: let me explain...
person"A" has mono.
person"B" madeout with person "A".
person"B" madeout with person "C" minutes later.
is it possible for person "C" to get mono??

*-thanks
♥ ♥ ♥

i take it youre c, right? yeah. you could.

Q: well;;i am 13.
and have yet to start my period.

i have had discharge for 3 1/2 years now. and have hair down there. i dont no really when i will start. when will i start? please dont tell me your lucky or everyone starts at different times.:] also, how should i tell my mom i started my period. i dont want her to be all weird about it. thannks!

some people don't get periods. really, i don't know exactly why, but some people, just don't. that may not be the case for you, but it should come any day. if it doesnt come in a year or so, seripously get it checked out.

Q: okay, well im on my mom's laptop which is her work laptop. and i was just going on cartoon doll websites like, pixlebee, cartoon doll.com and stuff like that. and all of a sudden this porn pop up came up! and idk what to do! what if someone finds out? i cant have my mom think i look porn because i dont! ah oh my gosh, i seriously cant have this happen! please help!

its just a pop-up. that constantly happens. it wont say you visited the site, because it's soley a pop up. :)

Q: Does anyone know a song that is fast paced, good, and is like inspirational about either miracles or helping others? I need one thats not about love...

its not fast paced. but really good. and inspirational. and not about love. 'let that be enough' by switchfoot.

Q: The books Gossip Girls.
Do you need to read the first one? or can you skip around and read the 2nd one first? does it matter?

actually, with gossip girl, you dont need to read in order. because each book almost starts some whole new, story line; per say. i started with book six, then read book five, and i caught on one chapter in.

Q: Okay, so there is a ton of negative input in the media of what Straight Edge really means.

I'm not exact, but I'm sure there is a ton of people on this site who hasn't really fully understood what it really is.

I was wondering if I could get peoples views on what they think Straight Edge is?

i thought a staright edge was a ruler.

Q: I'm not exactly sure what I'm looking for; what kind of advice I need. I don't even know if I need advice.

I'm 13/f, btw.

Last year (2005), during the summer, I met with a guy I knew over the internet. He'd told me that he was 14, and lived about 30 miles from my house. I met up with him, and well, it turned out he wasn't exactly what I expected. Things happened, that, well, weren't exactly supposed to happen. I personally just don't like the term "rape" but sure, lets use it. Since, no matter how much I hate the word, it's what happened.

I've done a pretty good job at hiding it from everyone. Luckily, I have heavy periods, and so I was on the pill at the time to make my bleeding lighter, so I didn't get pregnant. I was 12 at the time. Should I be hiding it from everyone? I've told three people so far. One of them, it was on accident, but she ignored it as if I had never said it. I've also told a good guy friend of mine, let's call him Anthony, but I don't think I can really trust him with the information. And I've also told my boyfriend, let's call him Andrew. He thinks I should tell someone, the poliece, or something. But I refuse to. It's just a weird feeling. I don't really want people to know, I don't really want people to do anything about it. But I don't know, should I tell more people? Like my mom, or the poliece? The guy, well, he told me that if I ever told anyone about it he'd track me down and kill me. And I know some people would think it stupid to listen to a threat like that, but I don't know. I really just don't know what to do. It's like it keeps coming back to haunt me. I was doing a good job at ignoring it, forgeting about it, but lately, it just hasnt been working.

Sorry it's so long.

we just learned about sexual harrasment in health the past few days. :) & i understood why you dont want to, and havent reported it.

why you dont want to:
a. you may not want to interrupt your life as it is fine now.
b. you think the raper might come back and hurt you, likek you said.
c. the police, or whoever you tell, wont take you report seriously or wont handle it correctly.
d. youre embarrased.

& while those may seem like good reasons not to tell someone, you should. this wont just go away. it will always be somewhere in the back of your head. & this guy will do the same to other people. put him in his place. make yourself feel better. & i know if if had happened to me, i wouldnt have reported it. because truth, everyones scared for one reason or another. but sooner or later, & i reccomend sooner, get it out to someone who'll help.

Q: 14/m

ok last month after a 4 month relationship i accused my gf of cheating ... idk sum random girl popped up on aim and told me this and i was the dumbass who believed her. n e ways we kinda stopped talking for a while and i really want her back, i've liked her sooo long i cant even imagine NOT liking her, shes the only gf i've had and im the only bf she's had. and i really want her trust back.

and i dont want the "just start randomly talking to her" thing i want honest answers that require thought, also i would prefer girls answer this question

she seemed sort of insulted you would accuse her of that. & personally, before accusing her, i wouldve asked her about it, and told her where i heard it. But thats the past. for now, just be really sweet to this girl. if you really like her, which you seem to, just be, romantic. Every girl wants to hear a rock at their window. literally. its the sweetest thing. but if you would do that, make sure she sort of likes you back. take her to a beach or some soft secluded spot. if not, just comfort her, make her feel good. it'll make you feel good, too.

Q: i am a girl. 1 am 26 yrs. I allready have sex with somebody. but not very deep. but i am not sure i am still vergin. now i am going to married with differen person. now i am very up sad because if the person know that i already sex with somebody else mean sure this person dont want me. my questions is the person can find out that i already have sex with somebody else? please advise me?

how about you learn how to spell virgin, first. and dont worry. hes probably had sex, too.

Q: i dont really need advice, i just wanted to say your icons are amazing!(from iconator.com, i saw it on one of your answers) how do you make icons? and have any of yours ever been icon of the day? ♥dAnieLLe

aww thank you so much! < 3 to make them i use jasc animation shop three & paint shop pro. but animation shop, no longer allows a trial. so you'd have to buy it. although you can also make icons in paint which comes with your computer. :) & nah, my icon has never been icon of the day. that would be pretty cool, though.

Q: hey what's a really fun place to go to on vacation but it's not too expensive? a list would be great :)
and in the USA of course lol
thanks so much!! and this is for summer vacation or something i guess..
i rate 5s

well, this may not be cheap, but disney world :) its seriously the best, & like it says, the hapiest place on earth. it has something for all ages & a number of rides. they have around 6 - 10 available hotels in the resort. If you have means, i suggest the grand floridian. its perfect. located in orland, florida. you might want to call for reservations soon, it fills up rather quickly. if you cant afford this, or anything else, drop one in my box & ill give you a list of less expensive vacation spots.

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Q: well im going to disney world in the spring (june) and i need some ideas what to bring. anything special or special clothes that are better than otheres

like i def know im wearing a bathing suit but i dont know what else to wear and bring that would benefit me the most because i dont want to bring my whole closet but i dont wanna go in like jean shorts and find out they dont work and not have any other kinda pants

and i live by kennywood and go there everyyear so its not my first expieirnce at an amusement park!

soffee shorts are best for the bottom. theyre comfy, and unlike jean shorts, if you get them wet on any ride, they will still feel just as good.

tank tops are the best for on top. its hot in disney world, especially in june, and tank tops are the best for the weather.

dont wear flip flops into the park. chances are you wont be able to go very quickly and you might even end up losing one; but theyre fine for around the pool. wear sneakers, dont bring flats. wear something youre willing to have dreanched in water or step in somoe not-so-pleasant things. trust me, if you bring a pair of really nice shoes, and get them wet, theyll be ruined and smell like wet dog.

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Q: I have a huge problem. The guy I have been seriously crushing on for the past year is moving away! His name is Will and he is like the sweetest guy ever. He's never had a girlfriend because he's a little bit prude, but he is amazingly smart and athletic. If i told him that I like him I can't even imagine his response. I think he would just turn bright red and walk away or something. But he's been dropping these subtle little hints that he might have feelings for me ever since he told me he's moving away. I know he wouldn't admit to anyone that he liked me...unless maybe he found out that i like him back. Except I don't know for sure if he likes me and I don't want to make a fool out of myself in front of him, but I don't want to regret not telling him later. Please help me!!

wow. i was in your exact same situation last year. & every day, i regret not telling him something. i wonder what wouldve happened if i had told him. i end up just feeling over all terrible because i didnt do anything when he was moving half way around the world. you need closure. if you like him as much as you say, you have to tell him. dont have anyone do it for you, you have to do it for yourself. so this boy is moving away, & chances are, you wont get to see him again. so what could it hurt to tell him something? the best thing that could happen is he says he feels the exact same way back. but no matter what, you cant stop him from leaving. and its going to hurt, even if you do tell him. because in all reality, he'll find someone else wherever he goes, and you'll find someone else, too. but thats the future, right now, you have to tell this boy how much you care. lifes too short to wake up one morning regretting something you didnt do. and you will regret this. because letting someone slip away is like falling off splash mountain at disney world. it hurts, & youll never be the same again once that pain goes away. tell him. maybe he'll say he cares just as much as you do.

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Q: Okay so ive been trying SOOO hard to get the link for the paint shop pro free trial download
but i can't find it anywhere! can someone give me the link please? im desperate!

the newest paint shop pro preferably x

go to jasc.com and look under the free trial section :) please rate.

Q: does anyone know how to make a icon? for like iconator or something?

i rate 5's for good answers

you need to download jasc animation shop 3 at jasc.com :) but, the opportunity to get a free trial just ended, so you'll have to buy it if you want to use it. thats what i use ♥

Q: does anyone know any sites where i can find realy good icons, not like those smiley things.

oh, iconator.com , most def :)

check out mine.
go to iconator.com.
theres a search bar.
type in 'xx-beat_that'
there should be a drop down box, scroll to the bottom and pick 'users'. click on 'xx-beat_that' and scroll down to see icons. click on them twice to download :)

Q: Last night I had to spend the night with my sister. She is married and already has children. So while she was taking a bath I was looking on her phone and found Text messages that where from her husband (he has a driving job) and one said, "Talk Dirty To Me." and another one said, "Wouldn't you like to be licked all over?". I was so shocked. I mean I would have never thought of him acting like that. So I put the phone down and I just couldn't read anymore. I still feel shocked and horriable. I know she is married and has a right to do what she wants,and I shouldn't have been looking on her phone and nowI just don't know what to do. Any Ideas?? (She is 29, he is 30)

sweetie, thats perfecty normal. There's nothing you can do, theyre grown up, & grown people get pleasure in doing things such as that. You might feel a bit bad for reading her phone, but those txt's were really no big deal :] feel better