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vergin
i am a girl. 1 am 26 yrs. I allready have sex with somebody. but not very deep. but i am not sure i am still vergin. now i am going to married with differen person. now i am very up sad because if the person know that i already sex with somebody else mean sure this person dont want me. my questions is the person can find out that i already have sex with somebody else? please advise me?
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how about you learn how to spell virgin, first. and dont worry. hes probably had sex, too.
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well i definitly shouldnt matter if oyu had sex with someone else before you were dating this guy. and so yea you werent cheating on your soon to be husband. you werent seeing your soon to be husband when you has sex so if definitly shouldnt matter!! because you werent seeing your soon to be husband! hope i helpeddd!
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It sounds as if your culture places a high premium on female virginity (I'm guessing that you're not from the United States).
Since I don't know your culture, I cannot say whether or not your husband-to-be would care. I know that in some cultures, questions of virginity in a bride can be very serious indeed.
Virginity is defined in two ways:
1. Having never had sexual intercourse. In this regard, you are no longer a virgin. This does not mean that you are in any way a bad person, of course!
2. In women, the presence of a hymen is taken as a sign of virginity. We don't know, from what you've said, whether or not your hymen is still intact. However, sex is not the only way that a hymen can be ruptured. Many kinds of physical activity can eliminate the hymen; horseback riding, for example. And in some women, the hymen naturally atrophies and disappears.
In some cultures there are "virginity testers" who examine women to see if their hymens are intact. These tests are completely subjective; testers have admitted that they base their judgments as much on a woman's aspect and behavior as on the presence or lack of a hymen.
So unless your husband inspects you closely, or has you inspected by a virginity tester, he has no way of knowing whether or not you are a virgin - other than what you tell him, of course.
And even if he DOES have you inspected (a prospect that I as an American find disturbing; it indicates a troubling lack of respect and love), the odds are that he or the tester (if any) won't really have any way of knowing.
Men generally expect a virgin to be tight, her first time. They may or may not expect a virgin to bleed. I think that your best course of action is to simply not say anything about the whole subject; the odds are that your new husband won't care.
It would be ideal if your husband-to-be was someone that you could talk to about this issue without fear, but this is not an ideal world. I wish you the best of luck.
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You still had sex, your not a virgin. If you're getting married tell him. It won't hurt him unless you cheated on him while you did it. You're twenty-six years old you should know what to do. If not it's kinda weird that a bunch of high schoolers know and you don't. Secondly there is really no way that he can tell you're not a virgin. Thirdly you may figure in that you need intensive reading help. No offense, but it's just so fxcking hard to read what you wrote.
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Yes your considered not a virgin since you had intercourse with this other guy..
But this guy your marrying will not know you not a virgin unless you tell him..I wouldn`t worry about it sweetie..
♥Dez
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Sex is sex. You are not a virgin, but there is no way for anyone to know unless you tell them. So you can keep it to yourself for the rest of your life and no one will know any different. A torn hymen is not a accurate way of telling because it can be torn from other things like stretching. Some girls don't even have a hymen, plus, you said that when you did have sex that he didn't go very deep so your hymen should not have been affected by that anyways. There are quite a few people that believe that they can tell if someone is a virgin, but they definitely cannot. If your guy gives you a hard time about it, he's not worth it. It's pretty rare for a person to have one sex partner for their entire life. It's silly to require that your partner hasn't done anything with anyone but you. Not only is it old fashioned, it's very unrealistic. Good luck!
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honesty and trust is the most important thing in any marraige or realtionship. i would think about it. if this guy loves you enough it wouldnt matter to him. but other wise you really cant ell unless you as someone if they are a virign or not.
*~Stephanie~*
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I can't really help, because what you write, and how
you write it, is very confusing.
Plus your 26, you should know.
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