Ask me anything, but I prefer questions about menstruation, spirituality, feminism, and history.
However, since there are so many confuzzled, "shy," young women out there, I usually end up answering questions about dating.
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i am a 21yr old female and have a huge sexual disire for sex everyday cn not find a man to satisfy me i need help... (link)
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Get a vibrator.
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ok i need a serious answer on this because i am really confused. i want to shave "down there" but i don't know how because last time i did i got major razor burn and itched forever and it was soooo uncofortable so i don't know how to do it and how much to take off... do you shave all of it off? please help (link)
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don't shave and don't wax. Your vagina needs that hair to trap bacteria (just like nosehair). Just trim it with some scissors.
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Ok, so there is this kid that likes me and I like him. I talk to him on the phone and at school. One day we got into the subject of boyfriends and girlfriends. So I said we would be like perfect and he goes yea let me think about it? Its been a month. How do I bring the subject back up, or do I just let it go? (link)
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Ask him out. You don't have to bring up the discussion, just ask him out.
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does anyone know and good, depressing, sad songs? not that im sad or anything, but i love listening to them, like sad songs by evanescence. does anyone know any other good ones? (link)
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I know what you mean. They don't make you sad, they're just emotionally stimulating.
Josh Groban
John Lennon
Tori Amos
Alanis Morissette
Janis Joplin
Bjork
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People are always asking me about my love life, like people at school. I have had a boyfriend before but that only lasted a week, and I always feel uncomfortable saying 'oh I've only had one boyfriend' when people ask. I know it's not a race or a competition as to who can get the most boyfriends, but it's starting to bug me and I don't want to lie and say I've had loads of boyfriends. The thing is, I'm just not emotionally ready to be in a relationship, and I want any relationship I have to be a long one, so I'm obviously gonna have less boyfriends than everyone else. I don't mind that, I just mind being embarrased when I say 'one'. How can I avoid these conversations, or what should I say when they come up? (link)
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There is nothing wrong with having had just one boyfriend. I'm 19 and I've had only one (we're still together, thought). Let me tell you a little, true story:
When I was in high school, all of my friends had had many boyfriends. Only one besides myself was a virgin at the time. I had never had a boyfriend until my junior year. It had bothered me that I had never had one, not because of what other people thought but because I was lonely. Shortly after my boyfriend and I started going out, these friends began pressuring us to have sex. It was very bizarre to have my friends and not my boyfriend to pressure me to have sex. I realized that they were doing so to make themselves feel better about having had sex with many guys after a few months.
Since so many people ask you about your love life, chances are that quite a few of them ask you to feel better about themselves, as though they have achieved more. I suggest you seek out others who share the same mindset and a similar past as you and make friends with them. Prodding questions are easier to bear when you're in similar company.
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Hi,
I'm going on holiday to Europe with my friend in the next holiday. We are gonna go out a lot of places but the thing is I have really heavy periods. There is a chance I will be on my period for this holiday and they are so heavy that I can't walk around or anything without having to rush to the toilet. I know I should see the doctor, I have an appointment for when we get back. But what excuses can I give my friend as to why I can't go out for the couple of days my period is this heavy? Could I pretend I was ill? I DON'T want to tell her I am having heavy periods 'cause it's just gross OK. So don't answer with that. (link)
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She's a girl, she'll understand. It would be understandable for you to be embarrassed about telling a guy. Chances are, she's been through the same thing.
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ii havent got my period for the month of february n i was supposed to get it around february 24th n i didnt! what does this mean ii mean i just satrted november 2004 (link)
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It's completely normal to miss a couple cycles when you've just started. It should even out in a couple years.
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im afriad of getting my period at camp! im nervous about it overall. i really dont want it leaking through. im 12. at camp who would i go to and where would i keep my pads/tampons so no one would notice? how would i tel lmy parents back home? help me please (link)
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If there will be other girls there, don't worry about it. In your duffel bag or backpack or whatever luggage you're bringing, wrap your stuff in a large t-shirt or towel. If there will be some female camp counselors there, they should be willing to help you out. Use a phone to call your parents.
It's a bad idea to use rayon pads and tampons. Tampons absorb all your vaginal fluids and make tiny cuts on you vaginal walls. Then, the bleach from tampons get into those cuts. Plastic/rayon pads keep your vagina from breathing and just supply more bleach. Not to mention both are terrible for the environment. Instead, use flannel pads. Either you can get them at www.pandorapads.com or you can make them yourself. They're reusable, comfortable, environmentally friendly, healthy, and don't leak. You just need to put them through the washing machine and dryer between uses.
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Okay.My boyfriend told one of my best friends that he doesnt like me anymore so she can tell me. When I got online she told me and I was really mad. I was mad because all of my friends were telling me to break up with him because he didnt treat me right. He didnt know how to be a boyfriend and plus he was prude. He always told me that he loved me and he would never break up with me but look now he told her he didnt like me
anymore. Im so mad at my self that I didnt listen to my friends before. I didnt want to belive them. Now I`m hurt and I dont know what to do. I dont wanna talk to him and let him know I`m sad or anything. So .. do you think he ever liked me or that he just said he did? Im so confused and hurt. Please help! I rate 5's! (link)
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The only way to find out whether or not he ever liked you would be to ask him. He lied when he said that he would never break up with you. He's a liar. It's completely normal not to want to listen to the advice that goes against something you enjoy. Thank them for their advice and listen to them next time, that's all you can do about it. Be sad for a while, then move on.
Why don't you want him to know that you're upset?
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I'm not sure if Frienship is the right catagory or not... Here goes: My friend, Chelsea, was a nervous wreck. She was so scared about telling her boyfriend she wanted to kiss. I told her to write him and note so she did. She said she gave it to him and he said he wanted to, too. That was a week ago and she says they still haven't kissed. I asked if it's because they never see each other except in school where they would get in trouble but she said he'll do anything else. Just won't kiss. Is he lying to her or nervous or what? Neither of us understand and she doesn't want to look dumb by asking. She's mad because if that is the problem, she'll probably never kiss him because they can't see each other out of school. Also, is this type of question common at all? Thanx!
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She needs to put the moves on him. If she sits around and waits for him to do something, nothing will happen.
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So, here's the story:
I am currently a freshman attending a private high school in Greenville, North Carolina. Since I'm in high school, I've started to search for different colleges that I would be interested in attending. I'm considering UNC-CH and I've viewed the application forms and application requirements. While I was looking through them, I noticed that a few of the required courses are not offered at my school as of now. My English literature teacher informed me that some colleges in the area offer extra courses during the summer, so I'm going to begin the required courses later this semester. But, I'm wondering whether taking the extra courses at a college during the summer or switching from my current school to a public school that offers these courses would be better for applying. I know that AP and IB programs are offered at J.H. Rose and South Central in Greenville, but I can't bear to leave my friends and my boyfriend behind. I know that my education should come first, but really, it is hard for me. What do YOU think would be the best thing for me in the long run?
- A confused high school student (link)
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You're just a freshman, don't worry about it. Start thinking about it junior year.
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My dog has REALLY bad dandruff(sp?) and i do not know what to do. Is this normal? Ive tried brushing him but theres just so much! Does anyone know of any good products? (link)
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Put some listerine mouthwash over the spot, then rinse it out.
If that doesn't work or if it's all over his body, take him to the vet.
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what happens to the soul who commits suicide? what is life after death? (link)
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The only way to find out what happens after death is to die. We, being living humans beings, can't know what happens after death, no matter how one dies.
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I need help because I have always been a sporty type of person, and now I like this one boy. People just don't understand that I have a sensitive side. I need help to make it seem that I have a sensitive side and for people to accept me for this.
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Just talk to him. Before you start the whole dating thing, be friends with him. Just by chatting with him and hanging out, he'll see your sensitive side.
If you're going for a quick and easy route, however (which I don't really recommend), how about seeing a movie with a really sad scene, like Ray or The Fifth Element or Armageddon (man, I've seen too many old movies) and tear up during the sad part.
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okay so im in 8th grade and i like this boy in 9th, EVERYONE knows i like him, even he knows! but here's the thing, i dont even know him but i feel REALLY uncomfortable being around him because whenever we are around eachother one of my friends yells out something like "hey! there;s your lover" as a joke or whatever but it really embaresses me and i've tried to be normal with him but my friends just screw it up!! also im good friends with his little brother (in my grade), and his brother ALWAYS makes fun of me in like a meanw ay for liking his brother!! and omg i am so confused i dont know if he likes me (the 9th grade brother)! please help, i cant really even understand what i just wrote but all i want to know is :
A:do you think i might have a little chance with the 9th grade brother?
B: how do i get my fried (the 98th grade brother) to stop being immature and mean?
C:how do i get the fact that i HATE it when my friends yell out things infront of him?
Thanks! sorry if its long and doesnt really make sence!
sensiraly (cant spell), confused one..... (link)
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Tell your friends that, if they don't stop embarrassing you, you'll stop being friends with them. They're being, there's not better word for it, really crapp friends.
Just talk to the guy. Crack jokes, be lighthearted. Be yourself. If he doesn't want to hang out with you, forget about him.
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OK when i first learned about sex back in middle school...i said to myself "im waiting until marriage" right away. I want to wait..because i dont know if i can deal with the emotions..but then again i want to do it (not now..definately not ready) in the future..you know when i find a bf when im like 18 + ..probably more like in my 20's though. I dont know..i just cant picture myself only havving sex with one man..plus im only 15 and im so curious about it now..im scared that what if i dont get married til im 30? I dont know if i can wait 15 more years..it seems to distant. How do i know for sure if im going to wait? or if im not? Do any of you out there have premarital sex..or have done it with a few people? Was the emotion too much for you when you broke up ? Or a one night stand..was that too much for you? I'll rate 5's (link)
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You're just 15, you have nothing to worry about. When you're 18, things will be different. You'll be a different person and you'll know different people. Maybe you'll have a boyfriend or maybe not. Deal with the situation when you come to it.
If the idea of waiting until marriage, which won't happen anytime soon (as in, it won't happen in at least three years), is so uncomfortable for you, how about waiting until you and your partner (whomever that may be) are ready to deal with a kid since no form of birth control is 100% effectibe?
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I'm really confused, and surprised. I talked to my friend today, and we were talking about how I'm interested in Witchcraft, and then she said "Are you telling me you're a witch?"and I got kinda uncomfortable and Was like,"not really"cause I'm interested in it but I'm not one..yet. And then I asked what she thinks a witch is, and she rattled off all the storytale things, and I was really surprised. I'm trying to explain to her what modern "white"witches are, but I'm doing the best I can, but I dont know if thats good enough, I cnt eactly tell her to go look it up online. (link)
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How about you get yourself a book on witchcraft to learn up on it some more, then have her read it?
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