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Q: Every body at my school has a boyfriend ir girlfriend.. I act myself and every thing.. What I am getting to is What do Guys look for in a girl!! and plz nothing Gross

I'm going through the same thing hun. Dont worry its not that bad. Pretty soon guys will start to notice you for you! Then you'll be the "hot one." Just keep doing what your doing and dont try to change yourself for guys likings :)

Q: i really need help in science im in physical science right now and my teacher is really hard!!! i fail of of the tests he says that we need to understand it and not memorize it and alot of science teachers i know have that same exact motto but i think i understand it but im not sure can someone show me how to answer the questions on the test or give me some tips

Is this the kind of science with solids liquids gases animporheous solids bernoulli's law charles law ect. ect.? and electricity and stuff? hah if so sucks to be you thats what im doing now and failing too! if not uh...ignore me im just the loser dwelling in self stupidity!

Q: I'm very overshadowed by my best friend. She's a very flirtatious, outgoing, redheaded vixen and everyone wants to be friends with her. Now, I don't mind it so much, I'm happy that she is well liked by people, but it's the fact that I seem to be getting less and less attention from her every time she meets somebody new. Especially guys. Every guy she meets has had a crush on her. (Except, thankfully, my CURRENT boyfriend...note that I said CURRENT..ex-boyfriends are another story) And often times she has crushes on them, but she still has to complain about them liking her. She seems to treat me like a child and she's the "All-knowing-one", especially when it comes to relationships, and it's really starting to piss me off! She steals my jokes and claims them as her own OFTEN and she says that I'm a bad friend because I once decided to stay with my boyfriend instead of going to hang out with her, while she has ditched me many a time to hang out with guys. (I can think of two instances from just last week.) I'm really bothered by her, yet I remain her friend and most of the time I really don't know why. And I want to talk to her about this, but I've tried before and she always apologizes and then forgets about it two days later.

And when it's just her and I things are fine! We have a great time and everyone's happy and once again I've become the comedian between the two of us, (material she later steals from me to use in front of her flirting victims), but when it comes to boys I'm completly ignored and she's off in the corner creating some sort of drama. It's weird for me, because before I befriended her I was always the center of attention among the group. I was the loud, funny, loving one who everyone wanted to give hugs because I would gladly dish them out. And now it seems like nobody has any time for me because they all want to be with her. Like she's taken all of my friends, but still claims that I'm her best one.

What should I do? I know the most logical thing would be to stop being friends with her, but we've been together for so long and we have most of our friends in common with each other, so there really would be no way to avoid hanging out with her.

Go make some new guy friends and hang out with other friends. Still hang out with her sometimes just not as much.

Q: I was talkin to my boyfriend last night, and out of no where he said that he needed to tell me somthin in a real serious voice. I got kinda nervous since we've never realy been serious before, we're alwayse lauphing and having a good time. So he said- (remember when we first started talking and you asked me if i'm a virgin and i said yes.... well i'm not. I just said that because i didnt want it to be akward if i told you that soon. Then he said that everything else he has said to me has been true, and he felt bad that he hadnt told me before.) When he told me this i didnt know what to say.I feel really uncomfortable with it. I'm not going to do it with him, since i'm only 15 and i dont believe in that, but i dont want him to go off to some other girl when i say no. What should i do, because i really like this guy. He is one of the nicest people i have every met and i still really like him?!?!?!?!?! Please help

Just tell him that you don't want to advance to that level. I doubt he'll go running off to another girl because it sounds like he really likes you and he doesnt sound like he's only w/ you for sex. He likes you for you not for a piece of bum!

Q: is it just plain wrong for a 15 year old straight male to babysit?

I dont see anything wrong with it...seriously, if you want to babysit, go for it. Unless your not talking about yourself then whoever your talking about should...go for it!

Q: I just moved to a new state and i do not know a lot of people and i want to babysit in my spare time. but i do not know how to get the word out that i will be able to babysit?help me please!

Make fliers and post them up around local stores. Offer to babysit for your neighbors if they have young children and then hope to spread the word. Start casual conversation with someone say in a checkout line and mention your interest in babysitting. I hope these ideas help!

Q: I met this guy over the summer from Germany and he is super awesome. I used to like him but now he's like a really really cute brother to me. He's my best friend. My other best friend likes him now and I am getting jealous. Does this mean I still like him or I am just jealous to be jealous.

I think that you are just jealous because you wanted him to be your guy and now that she likes him you might not get the same amount of attention from him, like you'll be left behind and your she will be 1st place. That's just what I got from your question though.

Q: I don't know what I want to "be" when I'm older. I have no idea what I'm going to study, or anything! My friend makes me think about this, because she's my age, and she knows what she's doing. She's going to be a chef and she's already practicing at home! It makes me think like I am behind. I don't really need 1 thing I am going to be, I just want an idea, or like a couple of occupations for me. When I was little, I always wanted to be a teacher. I played school all the time. But I'm not sure if I still want to. There's no other jobs that I'd specifically want to do, but I'll tell you some of my hobbies. I'm not much of a sports person. I like to write, but I'm not very good. I like to work with kids..I'm thinking maybe a daycare? If you have anything, please share your ideas or thoughts.

Just because your not sure what you want to do yet doesnt mean your behind. Plenty of people don't know what the want to "be." But if it's ideas your looking for, than you could be a teacher (hah thats what I wanted to be too! looks like you and me have something in common) daycare sounds good, infant care, it seems you want to work with children so working as a pediatrician, a nurse for the nursery for newborns.

Q: Yesterday, me my bff brittany and my family went to burlington for my little brothers hockey tournment. there me and brit spotted these 2 really hott guys and decided to try nd talk to them later. well so we did and it was actually quite fun we spent the whole night hanging out with them and just some younger immature boys. one of the 2 boys we spotteds name was shawn. i flirted with him alott and a few of the other kids kept telling me he likes me and stuff. the hotel was going to be filled with security guards at 11 and it was creeping there and a little before shawn asked for my number. i gave it to him and gave him a hug be4 i walked in my room but my friend keeps sayin guys just ask to make them look cool and its not like hes gonna call or anything. but he acted so nice and mature and everything so i didnt know if this was different or do all guys just like to lead us on.

I think your friend is just jealous and I'm sure shawn will call you. Just give him some time!!

Q: Okay, does anyone know if when you just wear studs when you get your ears peirced, will the holes still sag? or is there any kind of dangly earrings that don't pull on your ears? I'm clueless and not sure if I want my ears peirced or not :/(sorry if I spelt peirced wrong...) I rate high ^_^

I have stud earrings and I wear them constantly and my ear holes don't sag, if that helps any!

Q: I'm afraid 2 ask this guy out because he is one of my good friends! He is giving me mixed signals! What should i do? I am to scared 2 ask him out!

Take a few deep breaths and think it over. If this good guy friend says no, will it ruin your friendship forever? If you never ask him out, will you miss out on something that would have been great? Do you really like him? Then if your really sure this is something you want to do, just walk up to him and ask! :)

Q: alrigty...i have a bad habit with cutting my self..and i need to stop...the only problem is...i dont kno how...my life is kinda shakey now b/c my mom is makin me go live with my aunt 4 good b/c of my "problem" and im doin pretty bad in skool with all the stress thats going on...and that makes more stress and just blah...i mean my friends and my boyfriend HATE the fact that i do it and they give me ideas to stop like squeezing an ice-cube until it melts...but that dont help... and i am in cheerleading an i always have to wear my long sleeve shirt so ppl wont see my arms and be like "shes physco" er suttin...but ne ways..i also have a prob with eating...i mean im not fat and i love food...but it just makes me wanna puke...so idk what to do about that either...so if ne one has ne ideas with how to help me with this stuff...please let me kno!

Go to your school guidance counselor.

Q: Does anyone know any good CD's that i can ask for for Chirstmas. I dont like Rap or R&B, i like rock/pop. But nothing like Brittney Spears or Xtina. And i'll like anything with electric guitars blarring. Any suggestions?

Yellowcard, Simple Plan, Good Charlotte, Linkin Park, ect. think along of those lines.

Q: hey..well okay here it is..

..last saturday i slept with my friends boyfriend while she was on a trip..she found out..hates me now and so do a bunch of other people and they wanna beat me up i guess..im going to a dance tonight at my old school cuz i switched schools at the beginning of the year and im really nervous..do you think theyd try something there??..or should i go and just have fun?!..i know i shouldnt care what other people say but when people talk about me it bugs me..so please hellllp:-/

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Well first off, you could have avoided the problem by not sleeping with your friends boyfriend...I mean you were friends so that was a pretty ignorant thing to do...but I suppose you should just go and have fun and dont be so paranoid that they are going to come out to get you.

Q: with an average income, how much would you spend on your 15 year old child?

thanks

My parents make average income they have 3 children they spend between 100-150 on each child...yeah.

Q: okay..i have oily skin on my nose and chin and at the end of the day all my makeup is gone there! and i look terrible cause my nose has a ugly birthmark on it and my chin has pimples..anyone know a good face powder that works really good and will stay on ALL DAY?? (if you need to know..i use face powder from clinique)

You could try Bare Minerals...it's sort of expensive but its minerals...it comes with a tape and stuff to show you how to put it on, and it's made with minerals so it wont cause pimples or anything.

Q: Ok I have a guy i like and who likes me or so my friend says. All 3 of us were in 3rd period and she sits nect to him and asked him if he liked me and he said yea sort of. then she asked him would you ever go out wit her he said i dont really know her. I am SoOo Shy and i dont know how to talk to him cause i dont know what to say to him and i guess hes shy too cause he doesnt really talk to anyone. So how do i start a conversation with him?! Like some tips!! HELP! I'LL RATE YOU HIGH!

Just be like...hey how's the weather! Lol or give him a compliment or be like "so you kinda like me i heard?, lets get to know each other!" if he says "what are you talking about i dont like you" or something just be like "well lets change that!" and if he says he does like you just ask him his favorites and such...talk to him about his friends and stuff, his interests, talk about yourself some too. It will be easy when you get used to it! Hope I helped! :)

Q: Hey every1,
I'm here to talk about my friend, Emma. We were eating lunch today and she started talking to me on how she thinks she's starting to loose her memory. She's 15 years old, and I know you loose your memory of old age and stuff...but she's 15 YRS OLD! Emma was telling me how she see's a friend of her's, but everytime she see's her friend, Emma can't remember her name. And Emma was telling me that it's not just that one girl...there's more ppl that she can't remember their names. Also she was telling me how she forgets what she did in the past week. She kinda remembers but it's hard for her to remember. Like she can remember what she did in 3 days ago, but a whole week she can't really remember. I asked Emma if she remembered what she did 2 weeks ago, and she couldn't remember. Is she really loosing her memory? Should we be worried? Is it really worth going to the doctor? Please answer me because I have NOO clue.
~missc~

She should go to the doctor because its better your health than getting embarressed. If she believes this is a problem get it checked out!

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Hi, I'm Jen. I'm a 15 yr. old sophmore at my highschool. I'm just an all-around-average girl (okay, I'm not THAT average) I enjoy giving advice and asking it lol. I play the trombone in my school band and jazz lab, I sing in the chorus and in my church choir, I have a few friends but not a crapload...and I'm always there for my friends with advice! Sometimes its not always what they want to hear, but I always mean the best. So, ask me a question and I'd be glad to answer!
JEN!!